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My 5 year Old Is Having a Tantrum| What’s Next?

In This Blog You Will Find

  • Tantrums of 5
  • Patience
  • Discipline Methods

Down Right Crazy Days

Today stared just like any other and everything was going smooth until my 5 year started the same old crap. She ever so often tries this temper tantrum crap with me and dad in hopes to get her way. I mean like what are the odds that this would actually happen. You have to at least admire her efforts.

Ugh Not Again

I feel like I keep going in circles with the tantrums. I know that they are reoccuring ever so often but my goodness. Tantrums for me are really emotional because I have all girls. 5 year old’s that throw tantrums

  • Aggression against both people and objects if not both
  • The tantrums tend to be longer
  • Not able to get back to a calm state

Don’t Freak Out

I know that when kids do become like this it can be very hard for a parent to not explode. In this situation you have to have patience. What they don’t tell you is that sometimes patience will not take that extra mile with you. You have patience probably all the way up to the moment you explode, then it’s abandon ship.

What am I to do with you

Most people don’t want to admit that their kids misbehave. There’s nothing to be ashamed of we all go through it. If each and every child was perfect what could we possibly teach them.

On that note what are some of the best options when dealing with tantrums? Now lean in this is on a need to know basis. Just kidding I try to refrain from spanking, this is the last resort.

  • Express the cons of their actions
  • Give Your Child a Verbal Warning
  • Timeout (I do at least 10 minutes, it normally takes my kids a little longer to wind down)
  • Punishment (Sometimes a day or more depending on what got them punished in the first place)

Don’t you think?

This is just a way to test your limits and to ensure that you are capable of handling something like this. You are stronger than this. In some cases I know that sometimes us as parents really do go through it. I want you to know that it is okay you are not alone. Parenting a 5 year old is hard nevertheless more than one children. Having structure is the best option. Make sure that when you are disciplining the kids you and your spouse are on the same page.

Photography| and the Birds

As of late I have been giving it great thought as to what I would like to bring out of this situation. Being quarantined and isolated from the outside world other than the internet gives you a great deal of time to think. I have quite a lot of activities that I do in order to survive my motherhood stress. We all have those, but self care goes a long way. So if you don’t have any it would be best that you find some if not one. Photography happens to be one of them, because I am able to share the beauty of the world through my eyes. (lens)

Picture This

When I first began my journey in photography I wasn’t sure of exactly what I wanted to do. I mean he type of photography, I wanted to do it all and more. You know the beginner photographer idea ambush. As time went on I began to incorporate different things into my photography such as trails. I am a very outdoorsy person and I have a passion for exploring and observing new things that other may ignore. Then it hit me, nature and wildlife. I had been doing this all along barely noticing. That’s my wake up call right there.

Fast Forward >>

Here and now a days I sill love doing nature and wildlife but it would seem hat I have found a love for birds. I find their beauty astonishing with the ability to glide through the air graciously. The only problem with than it I do not have the correct type of lens to take the images that I want. The Lens Required would be 200-500 mm f/5.6 E Vibration Reduction Lens.

Take a Beat

Before jumping into something I very insistent on doing my research because I want to make sure that I get what I need for a reasonable price. I know that sometimes we tend to get over excited and ahead of ourselves but just breath we got this.

The Brand Isn’t Everything…

Is more better?

Not necessarily because there are companies that sells you crap for a low price. You could be getting a array of items and they can be default. When buying bundles I would highly suggest doing research on the company. Pay close attention to customer reviews and what other say about the product as well. I will admit tha I have purchased vivitar products and they work with my nikon d3400 and works perfect.

Here and now

So at this point I am feeling overwhelmed with all of this but I know that it is something that has to be done. I am still researching as we speak but it is out of the three listed. When I come to a solid decision I will definately let you know. Arrival and unboxing will also be posted!

Quarantined Lazy Bones

But not for long

I don’t know what all this is about, but today I feel like just lounging around the house. It has literally been 2 days now and I feel like time has not moved at all. I think I am starting to be a quarantined zombie. I’ve been kept inside to long. I need an escape , an out of this whole motherhood shit storm. Being stuck in the house with a family of 5, and 3 girls as daughters i can sometimes get rough. I mean the pulling out your hair kind, what am I going to do type of situation.

Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

When in despair yell into the air

My kids have a tendency to become overly bored in an instant. If we do not keep them occupied in some way (I love educational tech) then our day is pretty much going to be rough. We all have our little tricks to get our kids to be quit, especially if your a SAHM and Work From Home. Keep in mind that everyone is different so no judgments here folks. If there is nothing to do they generally begin to play, rough house, argue, and then the inevitable fighting. So I try to be productive and prevent that. Yelling is not a preference of mine, I would rather not here it. Where as dad on the other hand has the ability to ignore it. I’m over her like how are you doing that teach me. I know terrible right.

Cozy Socks and Sweatpants Please

I have been seeing a lot of moms dress up while at home with nothing to do. I would prefer a pair of comfy socks over heels any day. To each it’s own, you guys are still beautiful. I have literally been in this phase where I don’t feel like getting dressed up, I would rather be dressed down and comfy. I get up everyday ready for battle (lol) I just know that today is the day I will get food thrown on me. I have to be ready for literally everything. I am comfortable and messy I can admit, but that the finer things about me I guess. I know most people would be like oh no you need to get up and get dolled up, but I’m rocking the #quarantinedmomlook.

Cook if you must, You Must

The only thing that has not been lazy is my love for cooking, this is done with love no matter if your happy or sad. I have been trying to introduce my kids to a sugar free diet. It has been going great and I have learned quiet a few new dishes, and researching new mexican dishes to introduce. This is also a way I can spend time with my girls, because sometimes they go off on their own and play. I know it’s crazy but when they play by themselves, moms tend to want to interject themselves. (very common).

Quarantined vs. Sanity

I know that through this time things have been hard, if you have kids then you get my drift. The only thing that has been hard for me would be adjusting. Blogging has been my comfort through all of this, starting up my podcast, and being triumphant.This is what is helping me to stay sane at home with my kids. Being able to share with different people about my take on motherhood and real life situations. If you have something that will help you stay focused on then by all means proceed with that. Now would be the perfect time to get a lot of things done.

Oh….. The Things We are not ready for

Brushes, Make Up, and Good Ol Lipstick

Now hang on a sec…

I knew that becoming a mom to a daughter I would eventually have to deal with the make up thing. What I was not ready for is the timing. About a year ago my youngest started dancing and with that came the make up. Now it may seem that I am blaming dance for this early entry into the beauty world, I am definately not. The make up was being used due to recital purposes. Soon after my daughter started playing in make up heavy. It was to the point that we were buying make up sets for christmas. It was then I figured that we may have a little problem on our hands.

Beauty doesn’t sleep

This make up thing had developed into something way bigger. My daughter started to not sleep as much during the night. By the morning she would be wiped out with dark make up from forehead to chin. It was really funny but I had to let her know that this was not okay. We all need sleep or else how could we function and be our best? For a little while I thought that maybe it had worked but of course we still had the occasional rebellion. A lot of people say this happens once a child gets older but I beg to differ.

Fast Forward>>> Stop Live Pink

Now here we are at the age of 5 and we have been without the make up for almost a year and for some crazy reason it’s happening again. Only difference her is that she is a little older and understands a great deal more. I happen to over hear this constant bickering back and forth. Hmmm, I’m going to go see what is all the fussing about. I get in the room only to realize that zanai is wearing lipstick. She looks at me and I look at her, and she asks me “Mommy where is my kitty lipstick”.

Curiously funny

It always strikes me as odd how kids can just overlook the fact that they are wrong and just carry on with the normal. It’s funny yet interesting to me. At this point I’m like okay and just started laughing. No I’m not crazy but it just dawned on me that rather sooner than later this should be addressed. This is my moment, right here right now. Why, what is the harm in leaving them be when the want do play make up? Some people frown upon this but they learn to live with it, after all this is your life.

Don’t let what other people think influence your way of life

Ears Open Let’s Get Grown Up

Oh darling what shall we do with you…

Techy is my middle name

I know that this may not be your first choice, but when you have kids sometimes it’s good to just let loose. Nap times are perfect for whatever your into or just feeling that day. I am a huge fan of call of duty, it’s so much fun almost like getting out of the house talking to people from all over.

I’m not saying bail out

Now I know what you may be thinking this is just some sort of cop out to get out of sex. No and Yes, I know that we as woman are not always in the mood and rather than hurt you spouses feelings just redirecting is a better alternative. This quarantine can be about what you make it, me personally I am taking time to get to know my husband all over again. I want us to be able to connect on a different type of level, not that we already don’t but you get my drift.

I know that by now you are really going through it with your spouse. Not as an argumentative type og going through it but the more loving kind. Yes we are all adults the correct term for it is SEX. I’ve learned that being cooped up with my husband that’s all he thinks about. I’m okay with it but i’m not a bicycle ya know. SO I have come up with different things to do with your spouse other than sex.

Most Popular

  • Board Games( For the game Lovers)
  • Video Games (For my techy moms)
  • Netflix(Careful with the titles)
  • Trails (I’m a Nature Lover)
  • Tik Tok (Let’s have some fun)
  • Spa Night (We all need some TLC)

Let’s get personal

Me I would prefer to binge watch on Netflix it makes for a great conversational piece. Sitting her watching a movie with my husband just makes me a chatty kathy. There is so much that you are taking in. I just feel like share, share, share.

What is your take on this specific topic?

I’m no Baby

Not That It Matters But Uh,

Call me weird but I have been pondering about something for quite some time. My daughter is 1 is she a toddler? I mean I am far from one of those moms that counts months. If you were to walk up to me and say my child is 46 I’m going to give you the blank stare. Yes I am one of them. Once zoii started walking I said that’s no baby and I started calling her a toddler.

The age of a toddler

Believe it or not this i a very common question in the motherhood community. Especially the first time moms so you and I, we are not alone. A toddler is a child from 12 to 36 months.

I prefer the easier way 1 to 3 years. So with that in mind my baby is in fact a toddler. It’s not a big deal or anything but this is a milestone for me. Becoming a mom of three I just knew I wouldn’t make it. I knew this wasn’t true but i was simply a thought. A common one I think that most moms deal with.

Expectations Tsk, Tsk

Now that we have established the toddler crisis, are you ready for what comes next? When your child turns one generally you will start to see them do a variety of things. If they are not doing them already.

Glitter, Sparkle 1

At this age you child should be able to

  • sit down without assistance
  • Crawl on both hands and knees (some may even be walking)
  • Pull themselves up utilizing furniture

Are you excited because I definatley am. Need I not say that maybe it’s best for you to baby proof your home. We do not want any sharp corners harming anyone.

Level Up

I don’t know about you but I feel like I just accomplished something great. Random thought it’s not like I haven’t been through this before. It’s just something about being able to relive it has me over the moon.

Loc Journey: Bye Bye Product You’ve Let Me Down

So when I first started my loc journey (a week ago let’s be honest) I was super excited still am. There is no doubt about that. Here’s my issue when I first started my locs almost a year ago prior to this time. I used the most common thing Jamaican and Lime Locking Wax. Although it wasn’t until after that I started seeing bad reviews about this. It lede to stop using this product but not so much the reviews but for a personal viewpoint. It was way to greasy and made my hair feel weighed down with guck. Also the smell was okay but not so much pleasant after a night sleep. I’m not saying don’t use this (but your pillows will thank me.) So this go around I decided to switch to up. I wanted something that wouldn’t be really heavy or greasy on my hair. So I did my research.

Just beyond

After doing a good amount of research I seem to have found something that works for me. Not to be confused as a product only for me.😂 Its really people out there like that, but you keep on shining. It has all of the necessities that I was looking for including that key component. Yes, moisture see we just agreed on something. As of recently I have found myself falling back into love with Cantu. Now they have a local line as well can you even begin to grasp that accomplishment. This is something beautiful I am actually totally stoked that they have taken this route.

Rolling Out

This product is a life saver I am currently retwisting my hair as I type. Now I know your probably like really and yes really I am a firm believer in blogging from anywhere. Anyway back to this awesome find. I have this thing about really sticky and messy hair products. This causes me to stay away from certain things but its okay I can live with that, but not without this. This has a funny texture but more along the lines of a more solid putty. Its doesn’t make a great deal of mess and can be shaken or placed in hand to observe.

Before the Tide

It was almost similar to this but more firmer. After I did my first go around of starter locs I used it and my hair came out beautiful. Unfortunately they did not stay in. Trust me we will address that later in another entry. However if you have not tries this product I suggest you don’t even waste you money on this. It causes a great deal of frizz and your locks will keep unraveling. You are basically stopping yourself from entering into your growth period. Now I gave this product the benefit of the doubt because I don’t listen to other people. I have to pass my own judgement and yes this is a thing that most if not all people do.

Not being a favorite of mine costing me about 5.99 in retail. It really is not worth the time nor effort. I am very disappointed because I had high hopes that they would redeem themselves. No such luck on my end.When it comes to hair in general you have to be very careful what you put into it. This is not something to take lightly. Love your hair and be you.

What is your favorite products to use on your locs?

Tantrums| Not In My House Hija

We are in that phase mama where you tell your toddler no and she literally has a moment of weakness. She simply cannot understand why she can’t do what she wants. I am okay with that but when she starts being extra now we have a problem.

Upgraded Motions

Zoii has been throwing her little tantrums for a period of time now that she is 1 and walking. Today I saw something new from her. Drinking juice in the living room she began to spill it. So what is your first instinct because mine is I don’t want to be stuck cleaning up spilled juice. So mommy took it, yes but that doesn’t make me a bad person. Zoii looked at me and the n she tuned up like one of those old fire fighter trucks back in time. She looked at me mama’s not budging on this sorry hon. No lie she instantly stopped crying and turned to me and slapped me.

She did what?

Yes she slapped mama, I looked at my husband and I said did you see that? I mean I was in complete shock. Maybe because my other girls never did this they common crying of course but hitting nope. I looked at her we have eye contact, I took to fingers and taped her little hands.

Disciplined capital “D”

I know some parents may be against spanking, popping but I learned from my previous mistakes. My 7 year old grew up fast and before I knew it she was mouth all mighty tongue everlasting. Me and my husband were like oh we don’t want to spank our kids. The reason being we used to get spankings when we were little.(its not uncommon just not spoken of openly) I mean who wants that, but I’ve come to realization that from those spanking I learned a valuable lesson. Stop Being Dumb, you get spankings for dumb things so the only solution would be to stop doing them. My daughter was living proof or lacking discipline. Yes I was that mouthy kids mom but that ship quickly sailed.

Don’t Prejudge Me

This is what I believe to be true but I do believe that discipline is a Must when it comes to your children. You can only take but so much, so I stopped feeling bad for popping my kids hands or spanking them. Only when it is needed, like if I told you a billion times not to do something. Then when you get in trouble you expect there to be no consequences.

That’s Just Down Right Bananas.

Raise sweet little humans, mine are from Mars

I do understand that you want you child to behave and yes it starts with you. It takes a village to raise a child or at least that is what I was raised on. The outcome of this would be that enstilling certain traits and behaviors in our littles now could mean less problems in motherhood, parenthood later on down the line.

Think about it, what type of forms of discipline do you use for tantrums?

Walking The Line

In case you weren’t aware the time is now 11:12. Normal people are sleep right now but for me no such luck. If your new to my blog I suffer from insomnia. Majority of my nights are sleepless. If I do manage to get some sleep, if I am awakened then I can’t get back to sleep. This has been an ongoing issue and I want to say that it started after I had my second daughter. It has been going on for such a long time that it almost seems normal, but its not. I envy the people who have the ability to fall asleep and stay that way. You guys are truly lucky, that’s where I need to be.

Come in Solution

I know that this is not something that will just go away. I am normally not a person that takes medicine. I believe that for every medication the side effects are triple that and causes even further problems. That’s just me don’t send me any hate mail. I’m jisy joking, I’m a mom with a sense of humor of course, I’m only human. I have started taking melatonin because my body needs a good nights rest.

Well, spill the beans

Since I have been taking melatonin I worried about the side effects. Then I think that without it I may go back to constantly being awake. The good outweighed the bad in this situation. So fat nothing has happened, no I didn’t from a third arm. So I think its safe to say that I am going to make it.

It takes time

I have to say that when I take the melatonin it does not take effect immediately. Remember to give the vitamin 30 minutes. I hope that everyone has an awesome well deserved good nights rest. Stay safe ❤

Quarantine|with the Husband

I know a lot of woman will agree when I say that this quarantine has been hell. I knew that in the beginning it was going to be hard when my husband had to stay home. Hard in the terms of he has ADHD and so he has to stay active or he becomes a Nagitha Kristie. Just yap yap yap. We generally avoid this but being as though we literally have nothing to do. We are stuck and so we have been trying to cope with everything.

Then you throw kids in the mix its hell on wheels but at least they keep him occupied for the most part. You know how sometimes when people get stuck with each other for a long period of time. They start to get on each others nerves, now I know some people that would beg to differ. (appearances) I am going to be bluntly honest, my husband has been driving me up a wall. At first I couldn’t make sense of it because when he was always at work I missed him. Then I was kinda complaining because I did miss him. Now I have come to realization that we have just been stuck in the same place each other. There is absolutely the worst thing ever if I watch another Netflix stream I might just lose my eyes.

Now we have come up with different things to help keep us busy during quarantine. Its not as bad as before, I wanted to Bart Simpson strangle him. For him annoying me is all in good fun. Sometimes he complains that I need to smile more. Obviously my husband is the playful overboard. He always means well and always makes me smile so I’m good there.

I hope that after quarantine when things get moving again. We can get back to where we were. Until then I can make it, he’s not going to get my sanity lol. Once moms lost it dads not far behind. 😜