I’m no Baby

Not That It Matters But Uh,

Call me weird but I have been pondering about something for quite some time. My daughter is 1 is she a toddler? I mean I am far from one of those moms that counts months. If you were to walk up to me and say my child is 46 I’m going to give you the blank stare. Yes I am one of them. Once zoii started walking I said that’s no baby and I started calling her a toddler.

The age of a toddler

Believe it or not this i a very common question in the motherhood community. Especially the first time moms so you and I, we are not alone. A toddler is a child from 12 to 36 months.

I prefer the easier way 1 to 3 years. So with that in mind my baby is in fact a toddler. It’s not a big deal or anything but this is a milestone for me. Becoming a mom of three I just knew I wouldn’t make it. I knew this wasn’t true but i was simply a thought. A common one I think that most moms deal with.

Expectations Tsk, Tsk

Now that we have established the toddler crisis, are you ready for what comes next? When your child turns one generally you will start to see them do a variety of things. If they are not doing them already.

Glitter, Sparkle 1

At this age you child should be able to

  • sit down without assistance
  • Crawl on both hands and knees (some may even be walking)
  • Pull themselves up utilizing furniture

Are you excited because I definatley am. Need I not say that maybe it’s best for you to baby proof your home. We do not want any sharp corners harming anyone.

Level Up

I don’t know about you but I feel like I just accomplished something great. Random thought it’s not like I haven’t been through this before. It’s just something about being able to relive it has me over the moon.

Dear quarantine, I’ve Lost Count

Forever Cautious

I thought that just to be safe if we did go to a trail it would have to be a trail with not a lot of people. So i’m thinking well because all this caous is going on with covid the trails would be scarce. Obviously I was wrong, and o we ended up going to two trails. When we arrived at the first one I felt it was too crowded and I am all about protecting my little’s. I decided we can just go to another one no biggie. Luckily I remembered this little trail nestled within my neighborhood that is safe enough for kids. So that is where we went, and the kids loved it.

Let it Soar

As we explored the park I could see the excitement and curiousity all over there faces. Then you look at me and I have this like stuck confused plastered look on my face because I’m in mommy survival mode. I had to learn the hard way that everything doesn’t have to be so serious. I did encourage them to explore different things that I knew would not be harmful to them. We had a chance to learn about Rocks, Rivers, and Creeks.

Covid Nature says You Suck!

I mean this is really beginning to suck. Being cooped up in the house for fear of getting sick. This pandemic has really hit below the belt. Now as we sit around waiting for some good news we have to be proactive. For us who has children we have to be twice that. In the beginning I had huge ideas that we can do being as though I thought this would be over soon. I soon found that out the hard way as I’m sure many of us did. Being as though I am a nature mind and I love taking nature and wildlife photography I decided that we should incorporate trails in our day. We normally commit to doing these anyway because our kids love them and me too.

Safe Trails?

Are trails safe right now with covid going on? Yes, I mean it’s simply you being out in nature no playgrounds or anything. Not unless you are expecting to be sneezed on by a tree. I think your good to go.

Exercise and Education?

Triumphant

Being as though kids are no in school this is an awesome way to tie science and physical education together. I always up for a two for one deal.

There is nothing wrong with a little nature run. At the end of this road with be much more fun.

Almost One

I remember when my oldest children were one and it was not as hard as my third. We are now approaching the glorious number 1.

In the beginning everything seemed to be going great and according to plan. Now here we are just weeks away from one and my daughter has developed different habits that drive me nuts.

  • Wanting to be carried all the time
  • Constantly whining
  • Tantrums on and off
  • Trouble sleeping

I’m not sure what this is about but I’m sure that it can be fixed. Most moms experience things such as these but they handle them differently. Obviously because we are all different.

Carry Me

My daughter has always been a loner she plays with her sisters of course. However on the other hand she tends to stay to herself relaxing while she watches her shows. As of late she has been crying a lot more. When I walk into the room she begins to cry and reach for me. When I pick her up she simply just wants to be held 24/7. Th is is not a good idea by far, so i let her crawl instead as I sit in the floor playing with her. This will eliminate the want to be constantly held and also helps her engagement and interaction.

Consistantly Crying

Zoii has never been big on the whole crying scene. As of late all of that has gone out the window. You know the sitting on my lawn whole ordeal. She crys on and off constantly throughout the day and there will literally nothing wrong. Of course you have to check for all the reasons she could be crying.

  • Hungry
  • Thirsty
  • Wet
  • Sleepy

No my zoii was nothing above she simply just wanted to have her loud outbursts alone. It’s all funny really when you see it first hand.

Imagine sitting in the room watching elmo and she just starts to cry. She never makes eye contact but rather looks as if she is watching a sad movie of some sort. I dont really know how to describe it other than that.

Tantrums

I normally get tantrums around the time that she has to get dressed. As if she doesnt want to or simply just wants to give me a hard time. Sometimes it’s hard to tell but I never rule out both. It seems as though no is majority of my vocabulary now.

Sleeping Problems

At first I couldnt get my little one to sleep and now it has become a bigger issue. It basically got better before it got worst if that makes sense. Now she goes right to sleep but the problem is that her sleep at night is consistent with her afternoon. Meaning she only sleep for a couple of hours and then she wakes up cries out the blue and back to sleep. Call me crazy if I think it weird.

I am seeing a great deal of change and not that there are bad but challenging. So many of these issues can easily be fixed but it is a preference of mom.

Have you ever experienced anything like this with your little one?

Late Night Mom Time

Alone at last the kids are asleep which means free time for me. In what way will I productive tonight. I’m really not sure but that’s quite alright.

I’ve found a variety of different things to do. There once was a time when I didnt exactly know what to do with so much time. It really doesnt matter because my time, is my time.

Same Old

For quite sometime I’ve been doing the same thing and at this point I’m a little bored with it. I need variety, or I cant survive. Funny thing to say right but bn it’s true.

Things You Can Do

  • Catch up on series
  • Eat something sweet
  • Blog
  • Clean

Series

We all know how sometimes watching television with a plus one isn’t always the best decision. Now add on 3 that’s total overload. I mean how do you focus, of course you cant. When everyone is asleep you get to watch, focus, and understand what’s going on. So grab some popcorn or ice cream and let’s get cozy.

Sweet Tooth

We all get those cravings at night but if your family is awake, what’s yours is there’s. Let’s be smart about this sharing is caring but what about you. It may seem selfish but you should be able to have something for yourself. So go on have a treat.

Blog

If your like me then you probably get you best ideas at night. I obtain the most focus at night when my house settles in. There are literally no distractions so why not engage with your fellow bloggers.


“We Love Bloggers”


Late Night Cleaner

It may seem odd but some people like to clean. Let me be honest you have your cleaners and the you have your excessive cleaners. I’d like to think I’m in between, but being a mom taught me that. Cleaning is soothing and relaxing, with a distant sound of music. Giving you sort of an escape.

“Clean On”

Finding activities to do at night could give you extra me time. Nothing fancy or extra but simply your time. There is always something to do.

Packing An Overnight Bag

A lot of people have said to me I am so overwhelmed because I am anxious for my baby but nervous at the same time. How will this process go, what should I bring for my hospital stay. That right there is the million dollar question. Everyone is different and so you wants may be different but your necessities will remain the same.

What Will I Need

I know what you thinking well what would you need exactly, what is an absolute necessity when it comes to Labor and Delivery. Don’t worry I am going to help you so that you aren’t one of those moms who buys everything. It almost puts me in the mind of the Luvs commercial you know “baby one and then baby two”. Okay but enough about that here’s what you will absolutely need.

Baby

  • Swaddle
  • Hat
  • Car Seat & Base
  • Blanket
  • 1st Day Home Outfit
  • Footed Sleepers

Swaddle

This is a blanket but not just any blanket, this is the blanket that moms absolutely love. Why is this you may ask? It allows you to cuddle your baby without physically doing it. The blanket allows your baby to feel as though he\she is still in your arms. (The cuddle method but without mom)

Hat

The hat is to keep the babies head warm obviously but also food for thought how do you think your baby would feel without one. Generally your hospital may even provide you with the colorful knit hats.

Car Seat & Base

This is of the upmost importance because your baby cannot travel let alone leave the hospital without one. The car seat and the base provides you child comfort while protecting your baby as well. Be very careful when it comes to your travel system you want safety so I encourage you to read reviews. Here are a couple of safe and affordable choices for Mom.

Play it Safe Not Sorry

Amazon’s Top Picks

Blanket

A blanket to keep your baby warm aside from his\her spanking new get up

1st Day Home

Yes, moms this is the best part aside from having your little one, dressing them up. We as moms get over the moon excited when we go baby shopping, I mean come on you get to dress up a little you that seems like loads of fun. A lot of people seem to think that this is not important but it is, we want our little ones to look there best for there arrival home to meet the family.

Footed Sleepers

These are moms best friend because who wants to deal with those pesky socks, and you want to ensure that your child is warm all around. We want to prevent having a sick baby.


What about mom?

  • Essential papers
  • Comfy Socks
  • Robe (Optional)
  • Outfit
  • Comfy Shoes
  • Nursing Bra
  • Breast Pads
  • Nipple Cram (Breastfeeding)
  • Snacks
  • Slippers
  • Heating Pad

Essential papers

When you get to the hospital you still will have to be checked in prior to being seen. You will need you demographics such as you id, insurance card, and anything else they may require for you.

Comfy socks

We all love that warm snug feeling on our feet when we are cold or just to simply utilize for movement. These are a must after you have your little one those warm socks will become your best friends.

Robe

This is not an absolute must but some moms prefer to have robes when getting up out of the bed, and some woman don’t. This is exclusively up to you as to whether or not you need this.

Outfit

Now after being in the hospital for days and days after delivering your little one you will be confined to your pj’s for a period of time, you will want to get out of them asap. So this is where you outfit comes into play this is your comfy I had a baby clothes, and trust me you will need this unless your traveling with Pj.

Comfy Shoes

After you have a baby sometimes your feet will hurt especially if you gained a little fluid due to your baby. You are going to walk around in comfy shoes that will really support you foot.

Nursing Bra

Nursing bra’s are mainly for my mama’s that breastfeed and word to the wise moms I would get a bra that benefits you. Amazon has some good choices and you can check the reviews but do you research you want stability,comfort, and access.

Breast Pads

These bad boys are worth every penny they prevent your breast from leaking, I mean who wants a messed up blouse. Think of it this way which is cheaper yet efficient, which way will cost you more money, right so we are on the same page.

Nipple Cream

This provides you with comfort for your girls, breastfeeding can be hard on a mother. Trust me you are going to want this. There are a different variety of items so check the kind that is a preference for you.

Here Are Some Good Choices

Snacks

We all get hungry during our overnight stay in the hospital and sometimes we have no patience. Waiting on a nurse can be tedious but some moms prefer this, having snacks on hand will cure those late night cravings.

Slippers

These are a neccessity being as though you will be traveling from you bed to the bathroom more frequently over a period of time of your stay. Walking on the bare floor can be cold and disgusting having slippers on hand can be very beneficial.

Heating Pad

We all need a little heat from time to time especially afters we have a baby our bodies will be moving around causing discomfort. Having a heating pad can give you comfort if you don’t like taking medicine, or if you are simply cold.

Becoming a mom is a huge deal, feeling secure that you have everything you need for your big day that gives you a sense of comfort and security. So being prepared is you best best to give yourself a peace of mind.

Hair Care for Biracial Babies | Kids

Hair Care For Biracial Babies| Kids

In this blog you will find:

  • What exactly is biracial hair
  • Manageability
  • Maintenance
  • Products

I know as Moms we strive to be the best we can be in all things. When it comes to hair we sometimes fall short. There are so many products and choices out there for “Natural Hair”, but which one should you choose?

I myself have been in a constant battle with this for quite some time reaching out to moms, trying new products. It wasn’t until recently that I came across a product that I fell in love with and that worked miracles for my girls.

What exactly is biracial?

Biracial is just simply a term utilize here and now in society in which refers to two races.

How can you manage your little ones hair

When it came to my little ones hair I was kind of up in the clouds I had no idea as to where I should start first and so I asked around. People would gives me tips and tricks that would work for them and so I managed to get myself a list and it works wonders.

Stick To This Regime and Your Cant Go Wrong.

  • Wash There 2x A Week
  • Detangle After Every Wash
  • Utilize conditioner I recommend the leave in conditioner (use daily)
  • If dry, wet hair and apply moisturizer
  • Apply your favorite Products for styling

I would also recommend that you check out this post on pinterest for some awesome regime ideas as well.

What are some good products for biracial hair?

I myself do believe that there are hair products that were made mainly for biracial hair and there is always someone coming out with something. That neither here nor there chceck out some of my suggestions and leave a comment if they work for you.

  • Not you mothers
  • Shea Moisture
  • Carols Daughter
  • Cantu

Now remember cruelty free is always the way to go when looking for products because I don’t know about you but I would rather have my product tested in a human vs. animal. The “Not you mother” line produces products that are first tested on humans. Not that it;’s mandatory because everyone has there own preference, simply just letting you guys in on what I look for.

Not sure which product to use?

We all face this problem and I have come across a product that I am excited about and have constantly been ranting over. I want to be clear this may not work for everyone but it works for me and this proud mama bear is going to share my secret with you.

This whole line in just indescribable I love that they are all natural.

Now as I said this works for my girls and I love it, the smell is wonderful but if your still undecided I would check out this blog to learn more about this product. Research is always a good method to go about this I mean as moms where would we be if we didn’t research.

Check out this awesome blog below to learn more.

I hope this has really helped you and I look forward to sharing more with you.

Survival is the Concept

There are an array of things that moms go through but none ideal as to what awaits them when the become stay at home moms. Not that this is a bad thing and majority of the time this is a choice in which a mom has chosen this route. She feels that their are more benefits vs. the way she has been currently living. When you become a stay at home mom just like any other job but without the SANITY in a sens.

Yes you gave up you 9 – 5 because:

  • You want to raise you children
  • Educate them in depth the way you want
  • Have more bonding time
  • Or you simply want to do you own thing and just be a mom

The reasons are infinite but with the pros you best bet is that the cons are not that far behind.

What does it mean to become a stay at home Mom?

We have already addressed some reasons as to why you may want or become a stay at home mom. On the other hand there is a bigger picture here.

  • Losing your identity. You were a bright and vibrant woman who always kept herself up now your wearing pj’s with banana nut squash on it.
  • Missing adult interaction: Not being able to hang put with your friends on you lunch break, Not really leaving the house unless you have to
  • Financial dependence on another: Having to depend on you spouse to obtain the finances that you may have
  • Answering unnecessary questions: What made you become a stay at home mom?, you don’t miss going to work everyday?

This is what you should consider when you become a stay at home mom, now if your like me you simply don’t care because this was a good decision based off of my family and income. No matter what your reasons are if you can get through this then you got it. Disregard the baby and yet keep moving, keep inspiring others when they ask “Do you like being a stay at home mom?”

I love it but that’s just me I have endured 2 if not all things listed above and I am steadfast about my decision, why because I am m e and what matters at the end of the day is my family.

How do you as a SAHM survive?

There are days when I just want throw the towel in and lock myself in my room but some of us don’t have that luxury and so we have to bite the bullet and deal. When I first started this journey I kept thinking to myself I cant do this. There would be times when I would call my husband overwhelmed and upset because everything was chaos. But once I got the hang of it I found that as long as I have a structured plan then my day would stop being so hectic. It’s really simple if I can do it then so can you.

Steps to How I Survive

  • Get you a game plan ready the night before….
  • Grab a little bit of fresh air take an outing…
  • Look for free things such as museums or the aquariam …
  • Exchange your number with other mom don’t be scared this can lead to play dates, social interaction for both you and your child|ren….
  • Exercise. …
  • Do something for yourself once per week (at least), engage in a want it’s okay you have earned it. …
  • Make the time you spend with your kids memorable

This also goes hand in hand with patience and I can honestly say that I lacked this very detail. I know that when I had my children I had to learn this concept really fast, kind of a sink or swim ordeal. I chose to swim because my kids and family mean the world to me.

Lacking Patience?

How can I be a patient mom is what I used to ask myself and each time I fell short even after I heard my first daughter it was smooth sailing. As she got older however I found that I was becoming extremely overwhelmed very fast. This is not a good trait to possess and so I decided that I was going to fix it because nothing god could come from that. It would just lead me down a road of self destruction. So lets figure out how we can be more productive in becoming patient.

  • Count to 10. (gives you a chance to step back from the situation)
  • Deep breaths
  • What would mom do? …
  • Weigh out you options…(How does this help?)
  • Take a break.
  • Laugh

Counting

Now when I say counting there is no right and wrong way to do this it’s as simply as it sounds but the overall outcome is that it works. It’s kind of like while you are counting you meditating, making sure that while you are counting you are also remaining calm.

Deep Breath…

Take a minute to step back from the situation and take deep deep breaths before just reacting this gives you time to analyze the situation, weighing the good and the bad outcomes.

What would Mom do?

Now be rational because you are a mom and your not just going to go off the rails and start throwing a tantrum. You have to be rational as if it was ever a choice. So ask yourself again “What Would Mom DO?

Find a Solution, Act on a Teachable Moment

Life’s lessons are what stay embedded in our children even after we are gone so embrace them with open arms knowing that instead of yelling you made the right decision as a MOM.

Weighing the good and the bad?

We all have choices but it’s the choices you make that will affect you forever. Make a mental list of the good and the bad and what would be your best possible outcome for the decision at hand.

Should I take a break?

Hmmm, should you take a break well geez let me think. A lot of people say that your a mom you don’t get or need breaks. A mom is sometimes discussed as an around the clock type job, you don’t have free time when you became a mom you gave that all up.

Well I beg to differ I am a mom of 3 and I take breaks if and when I need them. I’m not saying your having a bad day and the kids have drilled you down and you are on your last leg you just lock yourself in you bedroom. Simply ask your significant other if they can lend a helping hand. Or lay your children down for a map, I am a firm believer in naps. Why, you may ask because that’s my time to just be me not mom just for an hour out of they day. If you follow the tips i’m sharing then this may be rarely used.

Laugh out Loud…

We sometimes forget that we are all human and each of us has an imperfection somewhere but we are not as perfect as we may thing. We are in fact imperfect in a sense so In saying so things do happen, sometimes you just have to embrace it. Like your toddler sees his grandparents through a glass and runs into the glass. Although you may be scared that they are hurt you have to laugh because it doesn’t occur to you yet how the glass was not seen.

-Laughable Moment

What are your thoughts on this topic?