Loc’n it Up

Sweet Embrace

For as long as I can remember I have always had a love for hair. Well mine that is. I only had one rule, no one plays in my hair but me. This prevented the inevitable part and avoids confrontation. If anything was to ever happen it would be my fault, and mine alone.

How old

Can you say that with time coming and going I grew out of this. I am beyond over this My Hair and Me feud.I have tried so many different things and now I simply want to be as comfortable as possible. Raising 3 girls can be more time consuming than most. When it came to morning routines, this became a problem. For me to get all my girls together, hair done would take more than an 2 hours. To me that’s just craziness but hey moms like me go through this A Lot.

See it?

So I started thinking what would be easy for me to maintain, manage, style, color, all the above. Locs of course now just wait I didn’t just come up with this. This took a great deal of time, and this is not my first rodeo with dreads might I add. About a year ago I started my locs only to combed them out. Don’t worry it was for good reason, my daughter was being bullied because of her afro. I combed my hair out too now we are twins my love.

No matter there Texture, Length, or Color of your hair, you are Beautiful Inside and Out

Regrets are not for me

If you asked me if I would do it again I would say yes each time, who cares how many times you have to start over. Now here I am again I have shaved all my hair off and grew it back to start my natural loc journey. So here goes nothing the only part that I am really going to hate would be the wiggly worms part, that’s until they grow that is. Going into this Yes I was really scared, because I was going to get them professionally done but then I thought why? I can save money do them myself and learn how to do starter loc’s myself. This doesn’t always pan out because styles like these are easier done on you than other people. Now that I have done them on myself I actually find it very easier and I will be able to keep retwisting my own hair.

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Breaks Vs. Divorce

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Which is Best

Sometimes we get to that point where we may in fact need to make a concious decision as to whether or not we want to be together. Some people may think that relationship are fairy tales but that may only be because reality hasn’t hit yet. In other words every couple has there problems but it is the decisions that we make that will determine our fate. Being married makes it no longer about you kind of like when you become a mom it’s about your kids, same concept.

What it means to take a “break”

Normally in marriages the term is referred to as that you and your partner have not officially broken up, however you have decided to take some time away from everyone and your relationship.

How long should we take a break

No one ever knows how long the break will last for, it solely depends upon the partners. Based on what you may be going through you and your partner should sit down and discuss a time frame that you both can agree on. if this is not something that you can do at this time give it a week or so and then reach back out or discuss at a later date.

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Look At It From His Perspective

To woman breaks can mean a variety of things especially if you are in an unhealthy emotional state. Men however look at it as just some time to chill and relax to get their thoughts together. He needs time to sort things out on his own and it won’t happen while you are together. There is no time to think or deal with the problems while your ignoring them.

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Reunite or No

In some cases couples tend not to get back together if after a break they don’t see any possible way of this working. Just keep in mind that although you may claim to be changed or that things will be different doesn’t necessarily mean that you will get back together. Some things just were not meant to be and there is something better in store for you.

Do breaks help

Although this method is very healthy in a relationship, it does not really lead to break up. It actually has potential to strenghthen your relationship. The reason for taking a break are almost infinite sometimes it is the best choice.

What are your thoughts

I want to know what are your thoughts on breaks as it pertains to relationships and marriage?

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The Inevitable Fight

The struggle with kids is that when they are smaller they are like best friends with no care in the world except having there sibling there to play with and spend as much time as possible. Sadly to say that as they get older I wouldn’t use the term “become distant” but there interests will change. Causing emotional up’s and downs from siblings feeling as though they are being mistreated due to the sibling wanting to do there own thing. This can be a huge problem if not addressed because in some cases it can lead to fighting , arguments, etc. We don’t want that, so lets figure out a way to fix it.

In This Blog Your Will Find

Ways To Prevent Your Kids From Fighting

How To Stop Before Starting

Preventing problems like these can be simple if you don’t make them bigger than what they are. Preventing altercations between your children and addressing the issue can provide a teaching moment.


We Can Learn From The Mistakes That We Make and Live To Fight Another Day For We Are Warriors.

-SG

The method here is simple check out these neat ways for prevention.

  • Don’t compare your children under and circumstances
  • Give Lots of Individual Time
  • Keep Your Kids Occupied
  • Allow Them Personal Space
  • A Non Hungry Child Is A Happy One
  • Don’t Give Your Oldest Authority Over The Younger Sibling
  • Lead By Example

Comparison

Believe it or not some parents sometimes compare there children, whether they unknowingly realize or flat out just don’t care. This is not a good idea to do because then you may make your children feel as though they have to be in competition with the other. Which down the line could result in an even bigger problem causing a rift between your children.

Individual Time

Despite what others may think there is a thing such as group time it’s just not an everyday event for your kids. Think about it this way everyday would you want to do things daily with your siblings or would you want one on one time with your parents? I would choose one on one time that’s the same feeling for a child. Children need that one on one time with their parents away from other siblings.

Occupied Much

Make sure that you keep your children busy specially if they are busy bodies who like to constantly move around. Having a task for them to do will allow them to focus on something that they may very well enjoy as a solo or partner activity.

Personal Space You Say

Everyone and I mean everyone needs personal space, I’ve often heard moms says you don’t have personal space. Well don’t you, that’s just simply not cool sometimes kids just want to be kids and do their own thing. I allow my girls to have there personal space (Although it’s normally spent doing workbooks, my daughter loves school).

Tummy Rumble

This is no game I know this can be a stressful situation for moms, dads, and siblings. When a child is hungry they are hungry it’s kind of like one of those ASAP moments and you go from being on your time to theirs in half a second. It’s nit rocket science we can avoid all of the mood swing action and tantrums by staying ahead of the game. Schedules are our friends and utilizing them is the best thing we can do as parents, yes lets get dad involved.

#Teamwork

Authority Not Your Mama

This is something worth paying attention to when we have older siblings depending on the age we put them in charge of their siblings. This is a no go because in a sense you are giving them power over the other. No child should have that type of power to tell another child what to do.


I Am My Own Person In Which I Should Be Treated Accordingly.

-SG

It Starts With You

I know you have all heard the term to lead by example this is a real thing people. I understand that we are all creatures of habit but when you have children you become the center of their focus. What you do they will too, so let’s keep in mind what we do and say.

ADHD and Me

Being a mom is hard but being a Mom with ADHD is even harder. I am a Mom with ADHD, Married to a man with ADHD, and have 2 princesses with ADHD. This is extremely hard and chaotic at times managing and keeping up. However it is possible to manage being a mom with ADHD .

ADHD

Also referred to as attention deficit disorder as it pertains to that of a chronic condition in which a person may have attention difficulty, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness.

A mom with ADHD can edure a variety of different things such as the inability to sit still , losing track of their things, and staying on top of things.

This is not something that we as moms should be ashamed of. Over a period of time we have learned to deal with these barricades, we develop methods as to hos to achieve goals despite theses shortcomings. We all need help from time to time and don’t worry I will help you.

Shortcomings

Moms with ADHD cannot accept boring like boring task on an everyday basis can become exhausting to us. When we have to do task such as these it becomes unbearable, the type of things moms like us would stay away from.

Systems Are Life

Developing systems can be really beneficial and can really help, when you develop a system that is beneficial and created by you it really becomes easy and enjoyable to do.

Say for instance I am not a stickler when it comes to laundry but very picky at times in the order in which I do them. I do what works for me, so laundry is done on fridays, I tend to wash the girls clothes first, then mine and my husbands.

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Beneficial Habits

Developing habits can be useful but hard so start with one at a time. Establish a habit and start small, for instance making your bed. This will help you and teach you children a good habit as well.

Strategies for You

I know this may be had being as though you little ones come first but you must find a way to help you focus in your day to day life. I utilize color coding to help me accomplish my goals and stay on track. When I write a list i use a variety of colors always consistent with my tasks on a daily basis.

You Matter Too

Sometimes strategies can be tedious and you need to throw something in the mix to give you that extra umph. Listening to music while you get tasks done can be a motivational inspiration to keep you going.

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The Natural Way

Most people would prefer not to be on medication and believe that they can manage their ADHD by themselves. This is very well possible when you do your research. I utilize melatonin to help me relax and wind down because sometimes it is hard for me to get to sleep. It comes in different textures and can be found mixed with epsom salt for baths.

Dr. Teals has a very good line and the have both the liquid for as well as the epsom salt reasonably priced I might add.

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Food For Thought

Being a mom can be overwhelming especially when you have ADHD and so it is best to find somethings that will benefit you and help you be a calm mom. What are somethings that help you with you ADHD as a Mom?