Coping

Have you ever gotten up and thought that your day was going to be so productive and fun, like nothing could break your vibe? I’m sure we have all had those days but one particular day was a game changer for me. I had been feeling very emotional for quite some time but I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. I could tell you that I had a lot on my mind as I always do my thought process is never ending even when I want it to slow down. I don’t really have that type of luxury go figure.

Words unspoken, are the one’s that weigh’s the heaviest on one’s heart.

That day I woke up just like that, I remember thinking this is going to be a good day and I was in such high spirits. Just my luck it was anything but, I learned that I suffer from bipolar disorder. My world came crashing down, I mean I had heard of it but I never thought that I would have it. I wasn’t judging anyone or nothing I was just in complete awe, like really me? I didn’t really go through a realization phase it was kind of diving in head first asking how do we fix this. Truth is there is no remedy for it unless you take medication in which I opted out on. I’m not a medication taker and I barely like to take medication when I am sick. Cough drops and tea does my body just fine. Looking back on it now the signs were always there for me to see but I was always so wrapped up in helping and caring for others that I simply ignored me and my needs.

What is Bipolar Disorder?

Unusually shifts in mood, energy, and activity levels.

Lets me explain. Phases also called episodes, mood swings in which range from depressive lows to manic high’s. Mania episodes could include symptoms like high energy (bouncing off the walls not literally but close), insomnia, and loss of touch with reality. Depressive episodes could include symptoms along the lines of low energy, low motivation, and loss of interest in everyday activities.  Mood episodes can last days or months at a time and mainly.

Nothing Bad.

It’s nothing bad, but some people would think that this is something scary and it’s not. This can be managed if you are willing to take the time to understand yourself. In my case my mania’s are more current than my depressive state because I am constantly active. Everyone with bipolar is different, they are people just like you and I. This is a touchy subject for a lot of people but not discussing this is taking the cowards way out.

Self Realization

It took me a little to truly understand myself and I am still learning, I am not perfect. The greatest accomplishment for me would be to have the courage to tell my story and help other people like me or people that may have loved ones be better. Getting to know myself as a person took some time for me because I do have a tendency to be indecisive and that is no ones friend. I had a little trouble weening out the things that I like to do with the things that help me focus and enjoy. The things you find comfort in can be the smallest thing but just enough. Would you believe that I love crafts and being a creator. Photography and plants have also placed a stamp on my heart. That was the moment I started my real journey and managing my bipolar.

Each day is better than the next, you just have to breathe.

“Mania”
What is Mania?

Mostly described as a mood or energy level that is elevated above normal, but not so extreme to causes impairment. When I get my mania moments that’s when I get my best ideas I am my best creative self. I get so much done because it’s like my motivation just goes through the roof. I feel so energetic and it just seems as though my list of things to do grows with each waking moment. The downside to mania would be that it feels as though your mind is going like 80 mph and you cant stop it. My husband says that sometimes in my mania state I ramble like ongoing and it normally makes sense when you are listening. If you miss anything then you may never get the answers that you are looking for. Although to me when I am doing something or I write something while in my mania state somehow comes out so meaningful and passionate. Sometimes I surprise myself because it’s like how did I get my brain to slow down just enough to write an entire blog.

Sometimes I tend to forget things too because I have so much on my mind it’s like I had been sleep for a period of time and I just have so much to say, so much to do, so little time. My husband likes to refer to me as the white rabbit and I never understood why until I was diagnosed. I started to see things for what they were and suddenly things that didn’t make sense started too. He calls me the white rabbit because of my inability to sit still, I am always on the move. Sometimes I dance to get rid of excess energy. I have multiple positive outlets because even energy is sometimes overbearing and no one wants any negative energy floating around. When people say I wish I had your energy, I say trust me you don’t want this type of energy lol. My energy is nothing bad but it is a little to much to handle at times. Imagine sitting on a couch and all of the sudden you feel a burst of energy and it makes you want to get up and move. Sitting still makes you fidgety so you can either control it or get up and get moving. Even with that happening you still have a positive outcome for both.

The Downside

Each of us have at some point had to deal with depression whether it be a friend, family member, or yourself. When you have bipolar and depression the most random memory, thought, movie basically anything can send you on that sad cruise. Sometimes you may be able to avoid his royal sadness but sometimes she gets you. When I get in my depressive state sometimes I cry and then sometimes it strictly consist of me strolling through the house in my pj’s at 2 p.m on a saturday and a side of coffee trying to be normal.

Coming to Terms

I have come to terms with the fact that I have bipolar and that I am no where near being normal but instead I have this unique sense of creativity about me. Rather than thinking of this as something bad an non beneficial I see it as an opportunity. It’s almost like an algorithium if you want to call it that. When I am manic that is the best time to work work work and then fun. I don’t have the luxury that other have I am on a designated schedule that my body has chosen for me. Slowly but surely I am getting myself together and learning to be more productive on my good days.

Hate is a strong word

I am not the type of person who generally uses hate an awful lot but I do get a little discouraged with having this. I dislike my inability to make friends, trust people, paranoia, crying, and that how sometimes I cant control when I get my lows. I am still me but with a couple of flaws, we all have them. The key here is to understand yourself and then you will be better able to understand your illness.

Bipolar Marriage

Not all of this is bad I would say that within my marriage I have come a long way from then when I first found out until now. I’m not really sure how my husband makes it through my lows but I do really appreciate him beyond the moon and the stars. Sometimes when you get into a relationship and you suffer from bipolar it can have either a negative or positive effect. It all depends on how you want to go about it. I would say that my mania moments are his favorite he says I am such a social butterfly. Within that time frame it’s smooth sailing for whatever time frame, but he has also learned how to keep me grounded during my bad spells.

My bad spells are more along the lines of a normal meltdown but 3x worse. Sometimes it makes me want to lay around but I never get stuck in the bed. We don’t feel like normal people feel, believe it or not some people feel deeper than others in which makes us react differently. Have you ever heard the term of “It’s not the serious.” It really is and it is not like I can hide it I have been told since I was little that I wear my emotions. People sometimes ask me how is being married and suffering from something like bipolar disorder . It is a roller coaster for sure people always tend to want to be around for the good but never for the bad and that’s when you need them the most. If you can find someone that is there for both sides that you got yourself a keeper. I’m not saying marry the first guy/girl you meet that seem like they can keep their s*** together. Although this may be true I can say that I have never been divorced. I am not saying that I didn’t want to go sometimes because it just seemed so much easier but I didn’t because I knew that he loves me. Sticking through the mud with someone in their time of need speaks volumes. I mean who sticks around when they aren’t even sure which wife will be waking up beside them. He says that doesn’t really matter and between me and you I think he loves the variety. Weird right to each it’s own, you can’t help who you fall in love with but all that matters is that they love you back. If you are able to balance everything out and find a common ground then you will be okay. Compromise is the key to marriage but in this case it may take a little more. Working together, finding a common ground, and keeping others out of your relationship help’s as well.

Raising Little’s

You can raise children if you have bipolar it does not make you any less of a person or mom. Don’t ever let anyone else tell you an different. This mental illness does not cripple you it makes you stronger and able to endure more. If anything it teaches you your limits and what you are able to tolerate. I have not always had best run with the patience train. My kids do cut me a break because they understand what I an going through. I don’t lie to my kids because I want them to understand and to treat other people like they would like to be treated. Sometimes it is a task for me because like all parents I get overwhelmed by when I get like this I have my crying episodes. I try to keep my episodes from my kids but even that was hard, now I just go into a room by myself because I don’t want to upset them. They know but why subject them to mama’s bad day you know. So the hideaway seems to be working for me and right now that is the best thing that I can think of.

Distance Loving

I have had people that I have to love from afar because they do trigger my episodes sometimes which only means that they are toxic. I am okay with keeping people at a distance if it means that I can have my peace. Is it something that I wanted to do of course not but I do believe that toxicity is misery’s sister and I simply can’t have it.

Leave of abscence

I am sharing this story because I want others with a mental illness such as bipolar to understand that it does not make you a bad person. A lot of people tend to question why I come and go in and out of peoples lives. This is not something that I am proud of but my mental illness makes me that way as if being alone is much more better for me. In most cases you have to do what is best for you as well as your family and if that mean interaction then you better grab this by the horns. Do not feel discouraged there are a lot of unkind people in this world but it is up to you to stand up, stay passionate and teach them about mental illness. In the beginning I used to be ashamed to even utter the words bipolar disorder and now I make jokes about it that’s how comfortable I am with my illness.

Does Fitness Bum Toning Exercises Make You Feel STupid?

Have you ever wanted to work out and tone you lower body but was overly embarrased. Not because of anything but the obvious you are just to scared to take the leap. Anxious and motivated you decide to give it a go, but wait someones looking through the window. So embarrasing did they see me, I bet I look ridiculous. This type of thing is what we call a snow ball effect you down play the situation until it consumes your whole motivational spill that you had with yourself that morning. Yes there are some of us weird ones out there but it simply makes us more fun. For quite some time I have despised my thighs, I may be small but my thighs move way to much for me. Over a period of time it has made so subconcious but every time I go to do something about it I boost myself up to come back down. Which is in no way something that I am willing to deal with anymore. So today we are going to make a change and actually obtain progress in the process.

In this blog you will find

  • How do you tone you bum quickly
  • How long does it take to tone bum
  • Exercices
  • How to (Step format)
  • Free printable fitness workout tracker

Let’s be honest that if you believe that you are able to tone your bum like that then you must be ready for the overkill journey. You must be dedicated to the cause and push yourself because you whole lower body will feel as if some one has hit you with a pillow case of soap. If you willing then as am I what are some ways to tone you bum quickly.

  • Bridges
  • Squats
  • Lunges
  • Plies

Bridges

If you looking to tone you bum fast then you should really utilize this exercise 15 min, at least 2x a day for best results.

How To:

  • Place you back on the floor and place one leg up (your preference)
  • Resting the other leg straight on the floor
  • Lift your left leg until it lines directly up with your right thigh
  • Push up and down while in the same position
  • Switch Legs

The Alternative

Or you can simply plant you feet on the ground, with your back placed on the floor. Squeezing your hips together gently squeeze you bum, then lower yourself to the ground.

Squats

This exercise is widely known amongst the fitness because no matter if you are working on you legs, bum, or lower body in general, here’s your go to. This is the simplest exercise you can do and guess what it costs you nothing. Don’t you love heaing that sound I know I do.

How to

To accomplish this exercise you must

  • Place you feet apart hip distance
  • Squat to about a 90 degree angle
  • Then come back up

Complete a set of 15 reps at least 3x if no 2x a day but as your body begins to get used to it then you can add more onto your work load. Take it slow because jumping into this can really have an impact on your body. Pace yourself and still to the limit if you are just beginning and gradually progress.

Lunges

Amongst the other exercises targeted at the bum area lunges are a perfect way to work just that area. Its really simple once you get into it. This is done in a time frame that is more beneficial for you being as though everyone has a wide variety of goals.

How to

  • Stand with your feet and legs apart this time shoulder length (feet facing forward)
  • Step forward placing only you knee from going beyond toe length
  • While pushing off your heels, maintain you balance
  • Straighten your body back to normal upright position
  • Switch legs

Plie

Most people hear this term and automatically find it humorous but I for on have never been quite sure why. If you believe it to be true this is the mosy efficient bum exercise that anyone one has every though up. It’s low profile but has the biggest impact.

How to

  • Spread your feet to shoulder width
  • Toes pointing out, keep you back and arms straight
  • Place your arms out in front of you
  • Lower yourself utilizing the squating position
  • Then use you bum to bring you back to a standing position

This would only take 1 to 2 minutes a lot of people refrain from doing this because it not manageable, I know for me I know it isn’t. I mean I used to dance but those years have come and gone and my body isn’t what it used to be flexibility wise.

How long does it take to tone bum

When doing you exercises over a period of time it seems to take longer but as you start to see the results none of that will even matter. Toning you bum is something that can be accomplished maybe not in that time frame you wanted but over time. Toning normally takes about 6 to 8 week depending on the person and their diet. No im not saying go all out and become vegan but monitor what you are putting in your body. If you need a little assistance I would invest in the bum toning bands as well they really work.

If your thinking about exercising and toning you bum, take that leap and exercise like no one is watching. Learning to block things out will take you far here maybe even a side of meditation. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to be a better you, embracing you beauty and perfecting yourself for you.

Q & A

Have you ever struggled with anything like this while trying to become fit?

YogA Bound

Dear Yoga I’m A Fan,

For the longest time I have always wanted to do yoga. I suppose I was my own greatest enemy in this. Every time I would think about starting up again, I would tell myself little untruths. They would go a little something like the kids will never let you do it, when would you have the time, you should probably learn meditation first…..

So many times this has stopped me from doing what I want to do. I suffer from anxiety and so yoga is an outlet for me and another way for me to express myself through movement.

What Now?

Now I have given this much thought and the time is now. I mean what am I waiting for exactly? I’m just waisting time instead of bettering myself and my health.

Reality Check

As I am sitting here getting my thoughts together and anxiously waiting for the app to download. At this point I don’t know what to expect and so I just wait. By the way for those of you who are waiting for the app I am definately sharing. Yea it’s that good, it’s called Do You.

Inspire Yourself

I am super excited to start this. I know that it may be hard at first but I am my own worst enemy and best motivator. As long as I keep pushing forward and doing hat matters to me as well I can accomplish it all.

I put my plan into motions and I started reaching out to some of the moms. You can always find yoga moms on instagram. Inspiring other moms that you can be fit, calm, motivated, and mom. This one profile in particular that I follow is awesome and I love her good vibes. You can check her out @withlovemarisaa. I asked her abou it and she directed me to this app that she used when she started out. She was super nice and willing to help even though she didn’t know me from a can of peas.

This app even goes as far as letting you set up your own goals. As you can see I am simply just starting but I have chosen to do the beginners program. Follow the teachers as they provide you the guidance that you need. After completing this program I am going to venture onto another challenge.

Are you a Yoga Fan?

What is your favorite yoga pose?

Which pose would you recommend for a beginner?