Quarantine|with the Husband

I know a lot of woman will agree when I say that this quarantine has been hell. I knew that in the beginning it was going to be hard when my husband had to stay home. Hard in the terms of he has ADHD and so he has to stay active or he becomes a Nagitha Kristie. Just yap yap yap. We generally avoid this but being as though we literally have nothing to do. We are stuck and so we have been trying to cope with everything.

Then you throw kids in the mix its hell on wheels but at least they keep him occupied for the most part. You know how sometimes when people get stuck with each other for a long period of time. They start to get on each others nerves, now I know some people that would beg to differ. (appearances) I am going to be bluntly honest, my husband has been driving me up a wall. At first I couldn’t make sense of it because when he was always at work I missed him. Then I was kinda complaining because I did miss him. Now I have come to realization that we have just been stuck in the same place each other. There is absolutely the worst thing ever if I watch another Netflix stream I might just lose my eyes.

Now we have come up with different things to help keep us busy during quarantine. Its not as bad as before, I wanted to Bart Simpson strangle him. For him annoying me is all in good fun. Sometimes he complains that I need to smile more. Obviously my husband is the playful overboard. He always means well and always makes me smile so I’m good there.

I hope that after quarantine when things get moving again. We can get back to where we were. Until then I can make it, he’s not going to get my sanity lol. Once moms lost it dads not far behind. 😜

Late Night Mom Time

Alone at last the kids are asleep which means free time for me. In what way will I productive tonight. I’m really not sure but that’s quite alright.

I’ve found a variety of different things to do. There once was a time when I didnt exactly know what to do with so much time. It really doesnt matter because my time, is my time.

Same Old

For quite sometime I’ve been doing the same thing and at this point I’m a little bored with it. I need variety, or I cant survive. Funny thing to say right but bn it’s true.

Things You Can Do

  • Catch up on series
  • Eat something sweet
  • Blog
  • Clean

Series

We all know how sometimes watching television with a plus one isn’t always the best decision. Now add on 3 that’s total overload. I mean how do you focus, of course you cant. When everyone is asleep you get to watch, focus, and understand what’s going on. So grab some popcorn or ice cream and let’s get cozy.

Sweet Tooth

We all get those cravings at night but if your family is awake, what’s yours is there’s. Let’s be smart about this sharing is caring but what about you. It may seem selfish but you should be able to have something for yourself. So go on have a treat.

Blog

If your like me then you probably get you best ideas at night. I obtain the most focus at night when my house settles in. There are literally no distractions so why not engage with your fellow bloggers.


“We Love Bloggers”


Late Night Cleaner

It may seem odd but some people like to clean. Let me be honest you have your cleaners and the you have your excessive cleaners. I’d like to think I’m in between, but being a mom taught me that. Cleaning is soothing and relaxing, with a distant sound of music. Giving you sort of an escape.

“Clean On”

Finding activities to do at night could give you extra me time. Nothing fancy or extra but simply your time. There is always something to do.

One Of Those Days

I’m having one of those days where I just want to go go go. Literally I feel like I’m losing my mind. My 10M old is sick and constantly cries all though when she first became sock she didnt cry as much.

Now I feel like every other hour on the hour she’s crying. In some cases there is nothing you can do. This is one of them after you do everything that you could possibly do. After giving your child a remedy you have to literally wait it out and make sure that they are okay.

The anticipation of waiting does not take that long. I think it’s just all in your head. I have always hated sick days because then I feel helpless as if I am not able to help my child. In reality I am helping her by staying by her side until them remedy kicks in which ever solution you may have chosen.

Sleep and Co.

Why does it seem that all of the sudden nap time has some how become harder for me. My 5 year old always fights me to the end. I dont know what it is, why not take a nap there are plenty of adults that would jump at the chance. Lets take a little sanity vacay who cares if it’s for an hour or two.

I recently started to notice that she would stay up all day and then crash around 6. Here’s the problem bed time is bed time and that’s at 8. So the dilemma hear is that she’s barely getting any sleep.

What Can You Do

There are a lot of different resources out the that can help with that. If you do a little bit of digging you can find loads of things. I know I know pinterest right? This is a large community where sharing is what we do.

  • Lay With Your Child
  • Have a Schedule
  • Be Firm
  • Use Natural Remedies (Tea)
  • Read a Book

Laying Down

I know this may sound strange but for all the above reasons children tend to sleep better around there parents. There can be a cause or maybe not, for instance my daughter is afraid of the dark so laying with me helps her get to sleep easier.

Schedule

Let’s be honest we all know that spare of the moment and kids do not go well together. You cant just sparaticaly say hey nap time. Your kids going to look at you sideways. If you start make sure you enforce this add it into their schedule. This will help them get into the habit because they know what comes next.

Be Firm

Somehow our kids sometimes have the upper hand in situations. They use their charm to try to milk the cow so to speak. You have to make sure that what you say is law. Standing your ground will let your child know you mean buisness.

Natural Remedies

This always helps and all it takes is a hot cup of water. Tea is good for the body and mind. If you want to calm your child think “Tea”.

  • Tea
  • 1/2 tsp of Honey
  • Sweetener (Optional)

The tea can be any tea that you desire. If you have a specific purpose then find a tea that matches. Make sure that it is safe for your child. I always rotate between either chamomile of green tea. You can never go wrong with either or.

Read

This is probably the best part for kids learning about the world above and beyond. Although your child may not be sleeping but they are being productive and working their brains. Working with imagination sometimes fueling sleep. Also I hear reading is an awesome method to get your child to sleep.

Every child is different and maybe you have a neat tip or trick as to how you get your little one to sleep. I’m interested in hearing all of the different approaches other parents use.


But Before You Go

Question

When you are having a hard time trying to get you kids to sleep, what method do you use?

Fitness On The Horizon

So here I am once again awake although I can say that my mind is racing. There’s nothing wrong with letting your mind wander. One thing that keeps popping up is fitness.

Don’t Let Your Mind Get The Best Of You

I know I want to be healthy and fit but this journey is not so much about me but more so my husband. He is trying to lose weight, me being me I said let’s do this. I mean I have been wanting to workout for quite sometime. So we are going to see this through

Although I am weighing in at only 135lbs which is a steady weight of like forever. I cant seem to catch a break in the fluctuation department not that I’m complaining. I still have some baby weight I would like to work off.

Experience This

I share the great news about the diet plan and fitness goals for my husband and I. I cant help but icer hearing a faint voice reply yea like you butt needs it. I am aware that it may have been meant as a compliment but it could go both ways. My goal here is not to lose weight but work on my body physically, and to be that support beam for my husband every step of the way.

What do you think of this?

Fitness For Two

This could be an obstacle in itself depending on whether or not you get along. Yes there are relationships like that too.


To Each, Its Own


  • Understand what your partner needs
  • Engage with one another for support
  • Take your time (Rome wasn’t built in a day)

No No’s

When you are working out with you partner you have to keep in mind to be supportive. Not the smothering kind this also goes for motivation. Yes there is a such thing as motivational smothering. Sometimes we as woman feel like we are being caring and compassionate. The guys like trying to run from being coddled. So be very mindful of this nothing’s good beyond this point.

Question

Are you big on fitness, is 2020 your year? What are your fitness plans for 2020. Feel free to leave a comment we love to hear from you.

2020 Finally Hits

I know it may seem very odd and unusual but after a while I just stopped taking note of the year changing. Of course I’m not joking things is normal and somewhat common. No I’m not totally oblivious to the fact that there is a new year. It’s just kind of like jeez it’s just hitting that we are in a new year and the cycle starts over again. We get a chance to change things that we may not have been fans of in 2019.

When I think about my goals for this year I realize that they are bigger than last year. Just like everyone else I make plans and semi stick to them. It’s kind of like you get up and when your celebrating your thinking game plan. In reality it’s kind of like you are saying I got this relatively in your head. Well that’s not good your going to drive yourself nuts.

So I’ve developed a game plan, what matters to you the most. What do you want to change that will have a major impact on you, your lifestyle, or your family.

  • Brainstorm Ideas
  • Order them Important to Less Important
  • Put them in order (Structure)
  • Work on one at a time

Sometimes we can get overwhelmed with somethings and lose sight of what actually matters and what we want to fix with ourselves. In all reality that’s just cheating yourself throughout this whole ordeal.

Some of my goals for this year would be to enjoy life more plain and simple. We often get sids swiped in life with occasional problems or obstacles. We still have the ability to enjoy life in general.

  • Photography
  • Plan more family trips
  • Get Fit
  • Be Healthy

Question

Do you feel like you have adjusted to it being 2020 yet? What are your plans?

Littles Sleep, Biggs Up

So we are literally driving and I’m talking to my kids but I’m not getting any feedback. So my husband and I are like are they sleep? His guess is as good as mine. Of course I’ll check because dads driving that excludes him from mom duties right.

To our surprise they were all sleeping which is odd but they were probably tired. So this is like a never happening thing and now me and my husband are looking like what now.

What do you do when the kids are asleep and it’s just you and dad. I dont believe that we have given that any thought because this is like never for us. So now we have to think of something fun.

Travel Activities

  • Trivia
  • Memory Games
  • Guess That Song
  • Who Am I
  • See How Much They Know About You

Please remember that this is in all good fun and I dont want you to lose your mind over this. It’s really simple there are many many more depending on the type of spouse you have. My husband is a complete goofball so anything goes with him.

Let’s not flip our lid

I am really good at guess this song I would say that he is okay he would argue he is awesome. Yea typical dad taking all the shine. Just kidding dads dont hate me. You guys are awesome.


QUESTION

What are some cool games that you and your spouse might play in the car when the kids are sleeping? Talking doesnt really count.

Bullies In The School

How many of us have experienced some kind of bullying amongst children whether it be our own children or some one else’s. I tend to see this a lot and it really bothers me although I know that they are just kids I can’t help but wonder why they would want to bully others in the first place. In this case it’s not so much about why but how are they able to bully with adults being present.

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This is an ongoing problem in schools everywhere not just a general area. Most schools have chosen not to tolerate it while other schools tend to look the other way so to speak. My daughter attends a nice school where they teach a variety of different languages. She loves school and talks about nothing else literally. As of late I have seen a dramatic change in her when she arrives at school in the mornings. She is way less talkative then normal and she seems down not the normal motivated little person that I see everyday.

Is My Daughter Being Bullied

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I mean to any parent that’s a hard question to ask yourself because the next question is almost like how could I not have known this was happening. It’s okay it’s not your fault sometimes when there is a lot going on we tend to overlook things not intentionally but it happens. Try not to beat yourself up about this the only question that should be on your brain is how can I help, prevent, and stop this.

I happened to catch some things that were odd to me, but if you see a difference in your child or something that would lead you to believe they may be being bullied. Don’t overlook the signs if they are there.

Signs of Bullying

There is a wide variety of signs that your child could display from bullying other than verbally expressing it. There is no one that knows your child better than you, and you can tell whether or not they may be acting strange. I just want to make you aware that there are other things as well so don’t just limit yourself to one thing.

Signs

  • Lack of enthusiasm for school
  • Stomach Aches
  • Headaches
  • Hanging with a different crowd
  • Trouble getting sleep
  • Crying
  • Dramatic emotional reactions
  • Less Family Time
  • Withdraw from electronics

All of this may seem like nothing but just looking at this list I can pick out at least two of the actions being the ones my daughter displayed. What should I do now, address the situation of course. Everything starts from the top and works it’s way down the line.

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If your child is in fact being bullied at school I would start with the school

  • Speak to your child’s teacher
  • Address issue with administrators
  • Contact the school board

Sometimes when you talk to the teacher at times it can be swept under the rug or overlooked. Maybe the teacher is unable to handle all of the children within his care without help. Then the solution to that would be to get a volunteer or a teachers aide.

If you go to administration you have a chance of actually being heard and getting you issue across. Or maybe what you say will fall on deaf ears, you must always expect the unexpected. I’m not saying to just go straight above their heads, at least give them a chance to fix the issue. If nothing changes and in fact may be getting worst then I would encourage you to contact the school board.


Question:

If your child was being bullied what steps would you take to ensure their safety while in school?


Traits of A Partner


What’s Love Got To Do With It

-Tina Turner

Finding love can be somewhat of a hard task I mean you love who you love but in some cases maybe love is not enough. When looking for love you have to make sure that the person you may be seeking is compatible with you and have attributes that you my like, maybe even love them for. Most people look for partners with either one or the following.

  • Trustworthy
  • Loyalty
  • Stability
  • Compassion for others

Now this may be just me when it comes to compassion for others I am a real stickler for people who are rude and obnoxious to others it’s just not necessary. For us these components are of the upmost importance. It determines they relationship pretty much.

Trust Me

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Not everyone is trustworthy and only time will tell that if you pay attention to people rather than being in a state of lust things will become commonly clear. If you have found someone who is always been truthful this is a plus. Being with someone who is untruthful makes a person crazy because you never know when they are telling the truth even in urgent situations. When you are untruthful you have to constantly be that way because now you have to build on the lies that you have already secured for the foundation.

No One Wants A Person Who Constantly Lies

Loyal

It’s hard as is trying to find someone who will be loyal to you or do things that would otherwise compromise what you have. Disloyalty can cause a rift in a relationship but also goes hand in hand with trust. Once a person has been caught being disloyal there may not be a way for the other person to bounce back from the downfall. Something like this can have a huge impact on your relationship.

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Stability

When you think of stability what comes across your mind, if you are stable and seeking a partner he\she should be stable as well. You cannot build a house while carrying your partner not unless you are willing too. Stability ties into money as well if there is no steady income coming in this can cause rifts as well. Majority of relationship issues stem off of money.

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Compassion

This is always a plus for us we love to see how people interact with other people it says a lot about there character. Actions speak louder than words so if you feel like they are for you then go for it. If you see something that’s not settling in with you then say something. Normally we as humkans can see the early signs whether we want to or not.

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Finding the right person can be a hard task and sometimes they find you. I would advise that throughout your search you keep this in mind and if you see signs don’t ignore them. Remember that there is a someone for everyone.

Question of The Day

When looking for a partner or when you were looking for your spouse what were some of the things you looked for?

The Inevitable Fight

The struggle with kids is that when they are smaller they are like best friends with no care in the world except having there sibling there to play with and spend as much time as possible. Sadly to say that as they get older I wouldn’t use the term “become distant” but there interests will change. Causing emotional up’s and downs from siblings feeling as though they are being mistreated due to the sibling wanting to do there own thing. This can be a huge problem if not addressed because in some cases it can lead to fighting , arguments, etc. We don’t want that, so lets figure out a way to fix it.

In This Blog Your Will Find

Ways To Prevent Your Kids From Fighting

How To Stop Before Starting

Preventing problems like these can be simple if you don’t make them bigger than what they are. Preventing altercations between your children and addressing the issue can provide a teaching moment.


We Can Learn From The Mistakes That We Make and Live To Fight Another Day For We Are Warriors.

-SG

The method here is simple check out these neat ways for prevention.

  • Don’t compare your children under and circumstances
  • Give Lots of Individual Time
  • Keep Your Kids Occupied
  • Allow Them Personal Space
  • A Non Hungry Child Is A Happy One
  • Don’t Give Your Oldest Authority Over The Younger Sibling
  • Lead By Example

Comparison

Believe it or not some parents sometimes compare there children, whether they unknowingly realize or flat out just don’t care. This is not a good idea to do because then you may make your children feel as though they have to be in competition with the other. Which down the line could result in an even bigger problem causing a rift between your children.

Individual Time

Despite what others may think there is a thing such as group time it’s just not an everyday event for your kids. Think about it this way everyday would you want to do things daily with your siblings or would you want one on one time with your parents? I would choose one on one time that’s the same feeling for a child. Children need that one on one time with their parents away from other siblings.

Occupied Much

Make sure that you keep your children busy specially if they are busy bodies who like to constantly move around. Having a task for them to do will allow them to focus on something that they may very well enjoy as a solo or partner activity.

Personal Space You Say

Everyone and I mean everyone needs personal space, I’ve often heard moms says you don’t have personal space. Well don’t you, that’s just simply not cool sometimes kids just want to be kids and do their own thing. I allow my girls to have there personal space (Although it’s normally spent doing workbooks, my daughter loves school).

Tummy Rumble

This is no game I know this can be a stressful situation for moms, dads, and siblings. When a child is hungry they are hungry it’s kind of like one of those ASAP moments and you go from being on your time to theirs in half a second. It’s nit rocket science we can avoid all of the mood swing action and tantrums by staying ahead of the game. Schedules are our friends and utilizing them is the best thing we can do as parents, yes lets get dad involved.

#Teamwork

Authority Not Your Mama

This is something worth paying attention to when we have older siblings depending on the age we put them in charge of their siblings. This is a no go because in a sense you are giving them power over the other. No child should have that type of power to tell another child what to do.


I Am My Own Person In Which I Should Be Treated Accordingly.

-SG

It Starts With You

I know you have all heard the term to lead by example this is a real thing people. I understand that we are all creatures of habit but when you have children you become the center of their focus. What you do they will too, so let’s keep in mind what we do and say.