Plants + Urban+ ME

Have you ever wanted to start you own indoor garden but never got around to doing it? For what ever reason you never got around to it let’s just knock that out of the box because it’s not carved in stone. If you want something then you have to be willing to sacrifice for it even if it’s you time. I have always had a love for plants but never had enough time for myself to even collect one. That was a real blow for me because here I am stuck in the house due to quarantine looking for an outlet and I am still am making excuses. The thought did cross my mind quite a few times prior to quarantine that I should start my own but again I had so much going on that I quickly forgot. I really became interested in plants because of the great health benefits that they provide. My daughter suffers from chronic asthma in the beginning being cooped up in the house started to have a toll on her health. We were going through quite a few episodes. So I started to research plants that better help the air quality in you home. To my surprise there was quite a few choices when it came to indoor plants but I absolutely fell in love with the “Peace Lily”. The next day I went out and got my very own and the rest is history. Over a period of time my love for plants have grown causing curiousity as it pertains to each plant causing me to start my own collection.

In this blog you will find

  • Plants that produce the most oxygen
  • Collecting plants
  • Budgeting

More Oxygen Please

Some people like the air quality that plants provide and then you do have some of those people who in fact are looking for those particular plants that actually provides the most oxygen. If you believe that there is a such thing that exist I would have to tell you that plants like these do exist. Looking for one that produces more oxygen well here goes nothing.

  • Snake Plant
  • Money Plant
  • Palm (Areca)
  • Chinese Evergreens

All or even just one of these plants will give you the results you are looking for. I literally have a snake plant in every room of my home to esure better oxygen flow all throughout my home. I would reccomend that if you are considering one of these plants, you start will the snake plant being as though they are so low maintnence.

  • Watering: Every 2 -8 weeks
  • Sunshine Vibes: indirect sunlight
  • Fertilizing: A couple of times during the spring time

It is literally that easy no string attached type of deal and this is a great first starter plant if you have one kiddo’s or two.

Collecting plants

Once you get into it then maybe you will even start to explore new plants such as urban plants in which comes in a variety of sizes and vibrant colors. As I started to see and learn about urban plants the more I wanted my very own to grow and study. Where could I search for urban plants if I am a beginner, I wanted to tackle this as easy and gently as possible. I came to the conclusion that maybe Etsy was a start, but as I looked on Etsy I realized that it wasn’t just the plant that people were selling but cuttlings as well. I’m no expert but I can assure you this wasn’t the road that I was willing to go because I was so new to this. So I started small, facebook marketplace had a wide variety and so I started looking into different plants. I finally became linked to this nice woman who provides me with all my urban plants. Some in which you would originally have to order, she even puts baskets together. Cactus’s, Succulants, Rare, you name it then she has it. I can admit that I was over the moon when I found her it was from there till now 53 and counting. So If you are looking for urban plants don’t give up they are out there, try facebook first.

On a Budget

If your like me then you are always looking for a good deal because you are a plant lover save where you can and binge where it is needed. Generally when I purchase my plants I do go to my connect but I also dabble on etsy as well. I finally learned about cuttlings and I have been having a blast planting new plants that I have never seen before. They are reasonably priced and if your willing to pay for shopping it’s a plant lovers paradise.

Go for the green

Still thinking on whether or not you should get started well here is the answer “Yes”. Don’t wait like I did to start on something that yo love to do. If it bring you comfort than I am all for it. During these trying times we do in fact need a little more self care time  and need to unwind rather than releasing your emotions elsewhere.

What was your first indoor plant?

My Loc Journey: 1 Month Update

a Milestone Worth Celebrating

I don’t know about you but I am simply just ecstatic. As you know I embarked on my loc journey about a month a go now. First, going into this again I knew that it would be a bit tough to get into the swing of things again. I had my doubts but my focus was to make it to a month. That was my short term goal that I started with, and yes I started small. I didn’t want to rush anything or discourage myself in anyway.

Throughout this experience within a month I have learned a great deal on what works for me.

Retwist

I am particularly annoyed by the way my hair tends to look matted. So I have made it a point to retwist my hair every 3-4 weeks tops. This would allow for new growth to grow and be retwisted with my existing locs. It has proven useful for me so far.

Retwist 1 month

My occasional obssessive retwist

Some people say that it is bad to retwist you hair but so much when you are trying to loc your hair. Well everyone doesn’t always have the best of luck when it comes to locking. For instance before my hair started to even loc up it would occasionally untwist itself. This caused me great frustration but I pushed forward. Retwisting my hair more than most but wishing that my locs would stay and now they have.

Products

Diy Hair Overnight Mist

  • Witch Hazel
  • African Pride Oil
  • Water (Avoid for 4C Hair)

I soon realized that this remedy would not be the same as before. When I first attempted this and I sprayed the mist in my hair they immediately began to unravel. Of course I mean today of all days but of course it was okay because I had already planned to retwist.

By eliminating the water I prevent further frizz up unless it’s new growth of course. I moisturize my hair with just a mixture of oil and witch hazel.

Loads of Fun

This journey so far has been amazing. I have met a great deal of new people within the loc community. If you are considering the locs then I would strongly encourage you too. Locs is the best decision I have ever made again that is . (lol) I literally get up in the morning and have to do niothing but my girls hair. This is a win win for me and the kids.

Ears Open Let’s Get Grown Up

Oh darling what shall we do with you…

Techy is my middle name

I know that this may not be your first choice, but when you have kids sometimes it’s good to just let loose. Nap times are perfect for whatever your into or just feeling that day. I am a huge fan of call of duty, it’s so much fun almost like getting out of the house talking to people from all over.

I’m not saying bail out

Now I know what you may be thinking this is just some sort of cop out to get out of sex. No and Yes, I know that we as woman are not always in the mood and rather than hurt you spouses feelings just redirecting is a better alternative. This quarantine can be about what you make it, me personally I am taking time to get to know my husband all over again. I want us to be able to connect on a different type of level, not that we already don’t but you get my drift.

I know that by now you are really going through it with your spouse. Not as an argumentative type og going through it but the more loving kind. Yes we are all adults the correct term for it is SEX. I’ve learned that being cooped up with my husband that’s all he thinks about. I’m okay with it but i’m not a bicycle ya know. SO I have come up with different things to do with your spouse other than sex.

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  • Board Games( For the game Lovers)
  • Video Games (For my techy moms)
  • Netflix(Careful with the titles)
  • Trails (I’m a Nature Lover)
  • Tik Tok (Let’s have some fun)
  • Spa Night (We all need some TLC)

Let’s get personal

Me I would prefer to binge watch on Netflix it makes for a great conversational piece. Sitting her watching a movie with my husband just makes me a chatty kathy. There is so much that you are taking in. I just feel like share, share, share.

What is your take on this specific topic?

Tantrums| Not In My House Hija

We are in that phase mama where you tell your toddler no and she literally has a moment of weakness. She simply cannot understand why she can’t do what she wants. I am okay with that but when she starts being extra now we have a problem.

Upgraded Motions

Zoii has been throwing her little tantrums for a period of time now that she is 1 and walking. Today I saw something new from her. Drinking juice in the living room she began to spill it. So what is your first instinct because mine is I don’t want to be stuck cleaning up spilled juice. So mommy took it, yes but that doesn’t make me a bad person. Zoii looked at me and the n she tuned up like one of those old fire fighter trucks back in time. She looked at me mama’s not budging on this sorry hon. No lie she instantly stopped crying and turned to me and slapped me.

She did what?

Yes she slapped mama, I looked at my husband and I said did you see that? I mean I was in complete shock. Maybe because my other girls never did this they common crying of course but hitting nope. I looked at her we have eye contact, I took to fingers and taped her little hands.

Disciplined capital “D”

I know some parents may be against spanking, popping but I learned from my previous mistakes. My 7 year old grew up fast and before I knew it she was mouth all mighty tongue everlasting. Me and my husband were like oh we don’t want to spank our kids. The reason being we used to get spankings when we were little.(its not uncommon just not spoken of openly) I mean who wants that, but I’ve come to realization that from those spanking I learned a valuable lesson. Stop Being Dumb, you get spankings for dumb things so the only solution would be to stop doing them. My daughter was living proof or lacking discipline. Yes I was that mouthy kids mom but that ship quickly sailed.

Don’t Prejudge Me

This is what I believe to be true but I do believe that discipline is a Must when it comes to your children. You can only take but so much, so I stopped feeling bad for popping my kids hands or spanking them. Only when it is needed, like if I told you a billion times not to do something. Then when you get in trouble you expect there to be no consequences.

That’s Just Down Right Bananas.

Raise sweet little humans, mine are from Mars

I do understand that you want you child to behave and yes it starts with you. It takes a village to raise a child or at least that is what I was raised on. The outcome of this would be that enstilling certain traits and behaviors in our littles now could mean less problems in motherhood, parenthood later on down the line.

Think about it, what type of forms of discipline do you use for tantrums?

Loving Peace

Here I am awake again and there’s nothing but dead silence with a distant hum of meditation music. Other than the good o’l husband snoring everything is peaceful.

These are the times in which we are meant to embrace the better part of ourselves. When you become a mom sometimes you lose that inner piece. Everything is in chaos, screaming children sometimes peace is not an option. Except for the occasional nap time gig.

Embracing What Is To Come

When you obtain the ability to find piece then things move alot more smoother. If you think you dont deserve this you wrong everyone deserves a chance to be happy.

I dont know why but at night time I seem to gain my peace because it is quiet. Dont get me wrong quite is good but silence is just plain boring.

Embracing Separation Anxiety In Kids

I literally get this all the time why cant you go to work at a 9-5. Not that its anyone else’s concern. I will fill you in on a day and life of me, with 5 year old attached to me at the hip. It doesnt get any closer than this.

Believe you me I didn’t think that this was reall until it happened to me. Typical, right I know we all say that at least about one thing.

What is Seperation Anxiety

Normally referred to a condition in which a child  develops and sense of fear and nervousness when they are away from home.

Signs of Seperation

Some of the signs that we may see will appear to come off as crazy and absurd but to a child the reason in valid.

  • Clingyness
  • Extreme or Sever Crying
  • Refusing To Do Things As An Individual
  • Violent Temper Tantrums
  • Refusal To Go To School
  • Failure To Interact In A Healthy Manner With Other Kids

My Experience

My daughter tends to throw tantrums. Not just any tantrum but she really goes in for destruction and literally becomes sick from crying. Normal of course not, at first when the crying began I thought it was simply her not getting her way but we soon saw this to be untrue as well. She will never leave my side if I am around then you better bet she is not that far behind. She refuses to go to school. When she was attending school she would cry and scream for hour yes hours. I didnt know what to do so we seeked help. So now I am a stay at home mom that homeschools my 5 year old. I dont mind spending time with her but half way through your going to be a little overwhelmed. How do you prevent that from happening.

#momlife #hardworkingmom

Treatment

In most cases the over all method would be to utilize what is called therapy or the other term known as psychological counseling. This process allows for your child work with a therapist to reduce seperation anxiety.

Question

Does anyone else deal with seperation anxiety. How do you get through it.

Littles Sleep, Biggs Up

So we are literally driving and I’m talking to my kids but I’m not getting any feedback. So my husband and I are like are they sleep? His guess is as good as mine. Of course I’ll check because dads driving that excludes him from mom duties right.

To our surprise they were all sleeping which is odd but they were probably tired. So this is like a never happening thing and now me and my husband are looking like what now.

What do you do when the kids are asleep and it’s just you and dad. I dont believe that we have given that any thought because this is like never for us. So now we have to think of something fun.

Travel Activities

  • Trivia
  • Memory Games
  • Guess That Song
  • Who Am I
  • See How Much They Know About You

Please remember that this is in all good fun and I dont want you to lose your mind over this. It’s really simple there are many many more depending on the type of spouse you have. My husband is a complete goofball so anything goes with him.

Let’s not flip our lid

I am really good at guess this song I would say that he is okay he would argue he is awesome. Yea typical dad taking all the shine. Just kidding dads dont hate me. You guys are awesome.


QUESTION

What are some cool games that you and your spouse might play in the car when the kids are sleeping? Talking doesnt really count.

Breaks Vs. Divorce

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Which is Best

Sometimes we get to that point where we may in fact need to make a concious decision as to whether or not we want to be together. Some people may think that relationship are fairy tales but that may only be because reality hasn’t hit yet. In other words every couple has there problems but it is the decisions that we make that will determine our fate. Being married makes it no longer about you kind of like when you become a mom it’s about your kids, same concept.

What it means to take a “break”

Normally in marriages the term is referred to as that you and your partner have not officially broken up, however you have decided to take some time away from everyone and your relationship.

How long should we take a break

No one ever knows how long the break will last for, it solely depends upon the partners. Based on what you may be going through you and your partner should sit down and discuss a time frame that you both can agree on. if this is not something that you can do at this time give it a week or so and then reach back out or discuss at a later date.

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Look At It From His Perspective

To woman breaks can mean a variety of things especially if you are in an unhealthy emotional state. Men however look at it as just some time to chill and relax to get their thoughts together. He needs time to sort things out on his own and it won’t happen while you are together. There is no time to think or deal with the problems while your ignoring them.

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Reunite or No

In some cases couples tend not to get back together if after a break they don’t see any possible way of this working. Just keep in mind that although you may claim to be changed or that things will be different doesn’t necessarily mean that you will get back together. Some things just were not meant to be and there is something better in store for you.

Do breaks help

Although this method is very healthy in a relationship, it does not really lead to break up. It actually has potential to strenghthen your relationship. The reason for taking a break are almost infinite sometimes it is the best choice.

What are your thoughts

I want to know what are your thoughts on breaks as it pertains to relationships and marriage?

Tired and frustrated - is it okay to take a break from marriage, my husband? What I learned

Healthy Eating Styles

Here You Will Find

  • What Are Some Different Types of Diets
  • What Are Good Eating Habits
  • What Are 5 Healthy Habits
  • The Disadvantages of Eating Styles
  • What is Folate

Have you ever thought that maybe you want to better yourself so that you can become a better you. Some people dwell on this but never really start, in order to be healthy it starts with taking care of yourself. Believe it or not it actually starts with what we consume and put into our bodies. There is a great deal of healthy eating styles around but picking one that is most beneficial to you can be tricky. Some of the eating styles may be but not limited to

  • Ketogenic (Keto)
  • Vegetarian diet
  • Vegan diet.

And Many More

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Keto

This is a high fat, protien, low carb diet in which enforces you body to burn fats rather than carbs. Great for losing weight as long as you stick to the plan.

There are however downsides to this as well, keto is still a fairly new diet and is still being researched but as of right now The disadvantages are not well thought of.  

Downside

Although this choice may be perfect for you, you still have to consider the long term damge of subjecting your body to this. Keto can potentially cause kidney damage, nutritional deficiencies. The side effects consists of constipation, dehydration, fatigue and nausea.

Veggie Please

Simply a practice to stay away from meat and products that my be “Animal Slaughter”. Some people choose this journey because they do believe that animals have the right to live as well.

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Down Sided Lettuce

Lacking Sufficient Supply Of

  • Iron
  • Zinc
  • Protien
  • Iodine
  • Vitamin B12

All should be checked on a regular basis, this diet is also more costly depending on the varied type of diet you may have become accustom to. The hardest part of this equation is the meat as you are much more prone to have a harder time.

Vegan Love

A practice of not utilizing animal products within the diet and rejects the consumption of animals. This is more so if a plant based diet. I actually tried this particular eating style some things were not my cup of tea but then other were. It was a very enjoyable journey but it just wasn’t for me.

Low Balled Grass

This diet lacks in pertinent vital nutrients, being as though this diet excludes all meat and animal products it’s going to have a downfall at one point of another.

This Diet Lacks

  • Calcium
  • Omega 3
  • B-12
  • Folate

What is Folate

I know this may not be a very common term utilize in our society of well should I say our group of friends dont feel bad if you don’t know what it means. I am one of those people that had to do vast research to understand this so you are not alone.

It is determined to be a salt or ester of folic acid.

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Good Eating Habits

  • Stock up on more fruits, low fat dairy products (low fat everything), vegetables, and whole grain
  • Try to eat together like a family meal as much as possible (Share the recipes)
  • Buy a healthy recipe book or just search pinterest for clean eating recipes

The Selections Are Endless

Maintain Your Healthy Lifestyle

We all say hey we are going to become healthy and actually make a difference but somewhere along the line we lose sight of that. Lets maintain the initial goal and go for green, once you get into the groove of things everything else will fall into place.

5 Healthy Habits For A Better You

  • Smoking Is Bad For Your Health (Ditch Them)
  • Weight: You want to make sure that the weight you are losing will still bring you to a healthy weight. Being underweight is not healthy and should be avoided, remember we are reaching our goal weight because we want to be healthy for ourselves.
  • Exercise: This is a very important component being as though if you are trying to lose weight it makes up of 30% of your weight loss journey. So let’s get fit even if it for 30 minutes a day.
  • Eating a healthy diet: Choose the diet plan that’s most beneficial to you. (Individual Project)

How About You

I am eager to know the type of eating style habit you have chosen to do and why. Have you had any luck with this diet if so for how long have you been doing this. Share your story below in the comments.

The Inevitable Fight

The struggle with kids is that when they are smaller they are like best friends with no care in the world except having there sibling there to play with and spend as much time as possible. Sadly to say that as they get older I wouldn’t use the term “become distant” but there interests will change. Causing emotional up’s and downs from siblings feeling as though they are being mistreated due to the sibling wanting to do there own thing. This can be a huge problem if not addressed because in some cases it can lead to fighting , arguments, etc. We don’t want that, so lets figure out a way to fix it.

In This Blog Your Will Find

Ways To Prevent Your Kids From Fighting

How To Stop Before Starting

Preventing problems like these can be simple if you don’t make them bigger than what they are. Preventing altercations between your children and addressing the issue can provide a teaching moment.


We Can Learn From The Mistakes That We Make and Live To Fight Another Day For We Are Warriors.

-SG

The method here is simple check out these neat ways for prevention.

  • Don’t compare your children under and circumstances
  • Give Lots of Individual Time
  • Keep Your Kids Occupied
  • Allow Them Personal Space
  • A Non Hungry Child Is A Happy One
  • Don’t Give Your Oldest Authority Over The Younger Sibling
  • Lead By Example

Comparison

Believe it or not some parents sometimes compare there children, whether they unknowingly realize or flat out just don’t care. This is not a good idea to do because then you may make your children feel as though they have to be in competition with the other. Which down the line could result in an even bigger problem causing a rift between your children.

Individual Time

Despite what others may think there is a thing such as group time it’s just not an everyday event for your kids. Think about it this way everyday would you want to do things daily with your siblings or would you want one on one time with your parents? I would choose one on one time that’s the same feeling for a child. Children need that one on one time with their parents away from other siblings.

Occupied Much

Make sure that you keep your children busy specially if they are busy bodies who like to constantly move around. Having a task for them to do will allow them to focus on something that they may very well enjoy as a solo or partner activity.

Personal Space You Say

Everyone and I mean everyone needs personal space, I’ve often heard moms says you don’t have personal space. Well don’t you, that’s just simply not cool sometimes kids just want to be kids and do their own thing. I allow my girls to have there personal space (Although it’s normally spent doing workbooks, my daughter loves school).

Tummy Rumble

This is no game I know this can be a stressful situation for moms, dads, and siblings. When a child is hungry they are hungry it’s kind of like one of those ASAP moments and you go from being on your time to theirs in half a second. It’s nit rocket science we can avoid all of the mood swing action and tantrums by staying ahead of the game. Schedules are our friends and utilizing them is the best thing we can do as parents, yes lets get dad involved.

#Teamwork

Authority Not Your Mama

This is something worth paying attention to when we have older siblings depending on the age we put them in charge of their siblings. This is a no go because in a sense you are giving them power over the other. No child should have that type of power to tell another child what to do.


I Am My Own Person In Which I Should Be Treated Accordingly.

-SG

It Starts With You

I know you have all heard the term to lead by example this is a real thing people. I understand that we are all creatures of habit but when you have children you become the center of their focus. What you do they will too, so let’s keep in mind what we do and say.