I don’t know about you but I am simply just ecstatic. As you know I embarked on my loc journey about a month a go now. First, going into this again I knew that it would be a bit tough to get into the swing of things again. I had my doubts but my focus was to make it to a month. That was my short term goal that I started with, and yes I started small. I didn’t want to rush anything or discourage myself in anyway.
Throughout this experience within a month I have learned a great deal on what works for me.
I am particularly annoyed by the way my hair tends to look matted. So I have made it a point to retwist my hair every 3-4 weeks tops. This would allow for new growth to grow and be retwisted with my existing locs. It has proven useful for me so far.
Retwist 1 month
My occasional obssessive retwist
Some people say that it is bad to retwist you hair but so much when you are trying to loc your hair. Well everyone doesn’t always have the best of luck when it comes to locking. For instance before my hair started to even loc up it would occasionally untwist itself. This caused me great frustration but I pushed forward. Retwisting my hair more than most but wishing that my locs would stay and now they have.
Diy Hair Overnight Mist
African Pride Oil
Water (Avoid for 4C Hair)
I soon realized that this remedy would not be the same as before. When I first attempted this and I sprayed the mist in my hair they immediately began to unravel. Of course I mean today of all days but of course it was okay because I had already planned to retwist.
By eliminating the water I prevent further frizz up unless it’s new growth of course. I moisturize my hair with just a mixture of oil and witch hazel.
Loads of Fun
This journey so far has been amazing. I have met a great deal of new people within the loc community. If you are considering the locs then I would strongly encourage you too. Locs is the best decision I have ever made again that is . (lol) I literally get up in the morning and have to do niothing but my girls hair. This is a win win for me and the kids.
I knew that becoming a mom to a daughter I would eventually have to deal with the make up thing. What I was not ready for is the timing. About a year ago my youngest started dancing and with that came the make up. Now it may seem that I am blaming dance for this early entry into the beauty world, I am definately not. The make up was being used due to recital purposes. Soon after my daughter started playing in make up heavy. It was to the point that we were buying make up sets for christmas. It was then I figured that we may have a little problem on our hands.
Beauty doesn’t sleep
This make up thing had developed into something way bigger. My daughter started to not sleep as much during the night. By the morning she would be wiped out with dark make up from forehead to chin. It was really funny but I had to let her know that this was not okay. We all need sleep or else how could we function and be our best? For a little while I thought that maybe it had worked but of course we still had the occasional rebellion. A lot of people say this happens once a child gets older but I beg to differ.
Fast Forward>>> Stop Live Pink
Now here we are at the age of 5 and we have been without the make up for almost a year and for some crazy reason it’s happening again. Only difference her is that she is a little older and understands a great deal more. I happen to over hear this constant bickering back and forth. Hmmm, I’m going to go see what is all the fussing about. I get in the room only to realize that zanai is wearing lipstick. She looks at me and I look at her, and she asks me “Mommy where is my kitty lipstick”.
It always strikes me as odd how kids can just overlook the fact that they are wrong and just carry on with the normal. It’s funny yet interesting to me. At this point I’m like okay and just started laughing. No I’m not crazy but it just dawned on me that rather sooner than later this should be addressed. This is my moment, right here right now. Why, what is the harm in leaving them be when the want do play make up? Some people frown upon this but they learn to live with it, after all this is your life.
Don’t let what other people think influence your way of life
I know that this may not be your first choice, but when you have kids sometimes it’s good to just let loose. Nap times are perfect for whatever your into or just feeling that day. I am a huge fan of call of duty, it’s so much fun almost like getting out of the house talking to people from all over.
I’m not saying bail out
Now I know what you may be thinking this is just some sort of cop out to get out of sex. No and Yes, I know that we as woman are not always in the mood and rather than hurt you spouses feelings just redirecting is a better alternative. This quarantine can be about what you make it, me personally I am taking time to get to know my husband all over again. I want us to be able to connect on a different type of level, not that we already don’t but you get my drift.
I know that by now you are really going through it with your spouse. Not as an argumentative type og going through it but the more loving kind. Yes we are all adults the correct term for it is SEX. I’ve learned that being cooped up with my husband that’s all he thinks about. I’m okay with it but i’m not a bicycle ya know. SO I have come up with different things to do with your spouse other than sex.
Board Games( For the game Lovers)
Video Games (For my techy moms)
Netflix(Careful with the titles)
Trails (I’m a Nature Lover)
Tik Tok (Let’s have some fun)
Spa Night (We all need some TLC)
Let’s get personal
Me I would prefer to binge watch on Netflix it makes for a great conversational piece. Sitting her watching a movie with my husband just makes me a chatty kathy. There is so much that you are taking in. I just feel like share, share, share.
Call me weird but I have been pondering about something for quite some time. My daughter is 1 is she a toddler? I mean I am far from one of those moms that counts months. If you were to walk up to me and say my child is 46 I’m going to give you the blank stare. Yes I am one of them. Once zoii started walking I said that’s no baby and I started calling her a toddler.
The age of a toddler
Believe it or not this i a very common question in the motherhood community. Especially the first time moms so you and I, we are not alone. A toddler is a child from 12 to 36 months.
I prefer the easier way 1 to 3 years. So with that in mind my baby is in fact a toddler. It’s not a big deal or anything but this is a milestone for me. Becoming a mom of three I just knew I wouldn’t make it. I knew this wasn’t true but i was simply a thought. A common one I think that most moms deal with.
Expectations Tsk, Tsk
Now that we have established the toddler crisis, are you ready for what comes next? When your child turns one generally you will start to see them do a variety of things. If they are not doing them already.
Glitter, Sparkle 1
At this age you child should be able to
sit down without assistance
Crawl on both hands and knees (some may even be walking)
Pull themselves up utilizing furniture
Are you excited because I definatley am. Need I not say that maybe it’s best for you to baby proof your home. We do not want any sharp corners harming anyone.
I don’t know about you but I feel like I just accomplished something great. Random thought it’s not like I haven’t been through this before. It’s just something about being able to relive it has me over the moon.
We are in that phase mama where you tell your toddler no and she literally has a moment of weakness. She simply cannot understand why she can’t do what she wants. I am okay with that but when she starts being extra now we have a problem.
Zoii has been throwing her little tantrums for a period of time now that she is 1 and walking. Today I saw something new from her. Drinking juice in the living room she began to spill it. So what is your first instinct because mine is I don’t want to be stuck cleaning up spilled juice. So mommy took it, yes but that doesn’t make me a bad person. Zoii looked at me and the n she tuned up like one of those old fire fighter trucks back in time. She looked at me mama’s not budging on this sorry hon. No lie she instantly stopped crying and turned to me and slapped me.
She did what?
Yes she slapped mama, I looked at my husband and I said did you see that? I mean I was in complete shock. Maybe because my other girls never did this they common crying of course but hitting nope. I looked at her we have eye contact, I took to fingers and taped her little hands.
Disciplined capital “D”
I know some parents may be against spanking, popping but I learned from my previous mistakes. My 7 year old grew up fast and before I knew it she was mouth all mighty tongue everlasting. Me and my husband were like oh we don’t want to spank our kids. The reason being we used to get spankings when we were little.(its not uncommon just not spoken of openly) I mean who wants that, but I’ve come to realization that from those spanking I learned a valuable lesson. Stop Being Dumb, you get spankings for dumb things so the only solution would be to stop doing them. My daughter was living proof or lacking discipline. Yes I was that mouthy kids mom but that ship quickly sailed.
Don’t Prejudge Me
This is what I believe to be true but I do believe that discipline is a Must when it comes to your children. You can only take but so much, so I stopped feeling bad for popping my kids hands or spanking them. Only when it is needed, like if I told you a billion times not to do something. Then when you get in trouble you expect there to be no consequences.
That’s Just Down Right Bananas.
Raise sweet little humans, mine are from Mars
I do understand that you want you child to behave and yes it starts with you. It takes a village to raise a child or at least that is what I was raised on. The outcome of this would be that enstilling certain traits and behaviors in our littles now could mean less problems in motherhood, parenthood later on down the line.
Think about it, what type of forms of discipline do you use for tantrums?
For the longest time I have always wanted to do yoga. I suppose I was my own greatest enemy in this. Every time I would think about starting up again, I would tell myself little untruths. They would go a little something like the kids will never let you do it, when would you have the time, you should probably learn meditation first…..
So many times this has stopped me from doing what I want to do. I suffer from anxiety and so yoga is an outlet for me and another way for me to express myself through movement.
Now I have given this much thought and the time is now. I mean what am I waiting for exactly? I’m just waisting time instead of bettering myself and my health.
As I am sitting here getting my thoughts together and anxiously waiting for the app to download. At this point I don’t know what to expect and so I just wait. By the way for those of you who are waiting for the app I am definately sharing. Yea it’s that good, it’s called Do You.
I am super excited to start this. I know that it may be hard at first but I am my own worst enemy and best motivator. As long as I keep pushing forward and doing hat matters to me as well I can accomplish it all.
I put my plan into motions and I started reaching out to some of the moms. You can always find yoga moms on instagram. Inspiring other moms that you can be fit, calm, motivated, and mom. This one profile in particular that I follow is awesome and I love her good vibes. You can check her out @withlovemarisaa. I asked her abou it and she directed me to this app that she used when she started out. She was super nice and willing to help even though she didn’t know me from a can of peas.
This app even goes as far as letting you set up your own goals. As you can see I am simply just starting but I have chosen to do the beginners program. Follow the teachers as they provide you the guidance that you need. After completing this program I am going to venture onto another challenge.
I thought that just to be safe if we did go to a trail it would have to be a trail with not a lot of people. So i’m thinking well because all this caous is going on with covid the trails would be scarce. Obviously I was wrong, and o we ended up going to two trails. When we arrived at the first one I felt it was too crowded and I am all about protecting my little’s. I decided we can just go to another one no biggie. Luckily I remembered this little trail nestled within my neighborhood that is safe enough for kids. So that is where we went, and the kids loved it.
Let it Soar
As we explored the park I could see the excitement and curiousity all over there faces. Then you look at me and I have this like stuck confused plastered look on my face because I’m in mommy survival mode. I had to learn the hard way that everything doesn’t have to be so serious. I did encourage them to explore different things that I knew would not be harmful to them. We had a chance to learn about Rocks, Rivers, and Creeks.
Covid Nature says You Suck!
I mean this is really beginning to suck. Being cooped up in the house for fear of getting sick. This pandemic has really hit below the belt. Now as we sit around waiting for some good news we have to be proactive. For us who has children we have to be twice that. In the beginning I had huge ideas that we can do being as though I thought this would be over soon. I soon found that out the hard way as I’m sure many of us did. Being as though I am a nature mind and I love taking nature and wildlife photography I decided that we should incorporate trails in our day. We normally commit to doing these anyway because our kids love them and me too.
Are trails safe right now with covid going on? Yes, I mean it’s simply you being out in nature no playgrounds or anything. Not unless you are expecting to be sneezed on by a tree. I think your good to go.
Exercise and Education?
Being as though kids are no in school this is an awesome way to tie science and physical education together. I always up for a two for one deal.
There is nothing wrong with a little nature run. At the end of this road with be much more fun.
I cant even begin to tell you the week that I had, so recently zoii turned 1 and I feel like my world just flipped upside down. To me I kind of felt like where did time go, dammit she is getting older which means i’m getting older. Now that her birthday has come and gone i feel a little more relaxed about it. I always get really anxious around birthdays but that’s just me.
Now that she is 1 I am anxious all over again now not because she is one but because this is where its starts to get tricky. You can expect your baby to be in a whole mess of things, your home will never be the same. If you expected to keep a clean house with a baby I wouldn’t bank on it.
What should you do?
Lock Up Cabinets
If you haven’t already I would baby proof everything if you like me then you are also covering the table corners as well. In reality you have to see it for what it is that nothing is safe at this point.
When I say replace everything I simply mean that if you may have items that are close to the floor I would advise you to move them higher. To babies anything and everything is something wonderful and colorful, but they do not know better and so you always have to be aware.
I for one am not for glass I don’t like i nor do I keep it in my home for fear that my kids might knock it over and break it. I tend not to do things that I know will make me uneasy, buying glassware for me is not necessary. If you don’t want it broken then I suggest you put it out of your child’s reach. Sometimes putting it up higher is okay but I would not recommend it.
This is an absolute must and if your a mom when you get to lock you cabinets it’s a sign that you have reached another milestone. If your like me and keep your cleaning supplies under your sink than this is for you. I would strongly urge that when you baby proof your cabinet you make sure that they are really shut and locked.
I know that as a mom I need time to myself but the question is, “Why is it so hard to enjoy it”. When I get time for me and put my mom status on vacation even if it’s for a brief moment it kills me.
Why you may ask because I am so used to hearing my kids run through the house and breathe life into it all around. When they are not around the house seems lonely and somewhat abandoned. My kids are a part of me and when they leave I do miss them a great deal.
Someone inve bashed me for allowing my children to go to their grandparents during the weekend. I thought to myself your a mom how can you judge me for doing what’s best for me. You simply cant all moms are different in more ways than one.
I soon realized that over a period of time that I had to come to realization that I matter to. Being able to focus on me helps me to be better, more patient, understanding, calm. Its everything that you need to feel in order for you to find peace.
So tonight is one if those nights at first there was 3 and now there is 2. I know you guys are saying that’s not a break. Oh but it is and when you have more then 1 you crave that me time.
So tonight is for me. It may sound cheesy but if I’m lucky I will get a weekend vacation this go round. My me time will be spent painting my home with my husband. Two birds one stone and I have just managed to spend quality time while having me time.
So I’m going to start by saying that I Absolutely Love Hair Color. To me it’s a way to express yourself while having fun. Now all hair colors are bit best suited for different tones this we know to be true. You can be bold and still be beautiful with a beautiful color suited for you.
Here and now in society we tend to see alot of different colors some are beautiful and some are disastrous. I am no beautician but even I know how to do highlights. There are an assortment of different colors and brands but not all of them may take.
What is hair dye
Without all that extra crap lets get straight to the point it simple the practice of changing hair color. People use it for all sorts of reasons covering up the grey, or just simply changing the color for fashion or desire. The reasons for hair dye is endless.
Beautiful color and for $9 dollars a box it’s worth every penny. It even provides you with a bleaching solution for bright evolving color.
This brand is something wonderful. No matter what color I’m looking for whether I am looking to make a statement this is the way to go. The Colors are endless.
I recently tired this particular brand and instantly fell in love with it. I literally loved the vibrance of color that I brought 2. The color does not fade.
DIY Hair Dye
For everything that is great there is always a different way to do things if you want to cut down on spending. Or just simply want to do something fun with you hair or your kids hair. My daughter is only 7 and she has been begging me for color and I simply say no.
To DIY I say yes
This is a chance to bond with your child and do something fun just for them. Kids want the ability to speak out as well and express themselves. In more ways then one this is one of those things. So grab the bull by the horn and just dive in. What’s the worst that can happen?
You Can Do It To
Mix 1 cup of salt with 16 cups of water
Bring Mixture To A Boil
Sprinkle Color Into Mixture Prior to Dying
Vegan It Up
Mix 1 Part Vinegar to 4 Parts Water
Repeat Same Process As Regular Dye
There are a variety of different dyes out the so if you are a do it yourself type of person and love color like me take the time and save your money. What’s better than knowing what’s in you dye it gives me a sense of comfort.