Tantrums| Not In My House Hija

We are in that phase mama where you tell your toddler no and she literally has a moment of weakness. She simply cannot understand why she can’t do what she wants. I am okay with that but when she starts being extra now we have a problem.

Upgraded Motions

Zoii has been throwing her little tantrums for a period of time now that she is 1 and walking. Today I saw something new from her. Drinking juice in the living room she began to spill it. So what is your first instinct because mine is I don’t want to be stuck cleaning up spilled juice. So mommy took it, yes but that doesn’t make me a bad person. Zoii looked at me and the n she tuned up like one of those old fire fighter trucks back in time. She looked at me mama’s not budging on this sorry hon. No lie she instantly stopped crying and turned to me and slapped me.

She did what?

Yes she slapped mama, I looked at my husband and I said did you see that? I mean I was in complete shock. Maybe because my other girls never did this they common crying of course but hitting nope. I looked at her we have eye contact, I took to fingers and taped her little hands.

Disciplined capital “D”

I know some parents may be against spanking, popping but I learned from my previous mistakes. My 7 year old grew up fast and before I knew it she was mouth all mighty tongue everlasting. Me and my husband were like oh we don’t want to spank our kids. The reason being we used to get spankings when we were little.(its not uncommon just not spoken of openly) I mean who wants that, but I’ve come to realization that from those spanking I learned a valuable lesson. Stop Being Dumb, you get spankings for dumb things so the only solution would be to stop doing them. My daughter was living proof or lacking discipline. Yes I was that mouthy kids mom but that ship quickly sailed.

Don’t Prejudge Me

This is what I believe to be true but I do believe that discipline is a Must when it comes to your children. You can only take but so much, so I stopped feeling bad for popping my kids hands or spanking them. Only when it is needed, like if I told you a billion times not to do something. Then when you get in trouble you expect there to be no consequences.

That’s Just Down Right Bananas.

Raise sweet little humans, mine are from Mars

I do understand that you want you child to behave and yes it starts with you. It takes a village to raise a child or at least that is what I was raised on. The outcome of this would be that enstilling certain traits and behaviors in our littles now could mean less problems in motherhood, parenthood later on down the line.

Think about it, what type of forms of discipline do you use for tantrums?

Walking The Line

In case you weren’t aware the time is now 11:12. Normal people are sleep right now but for me no such luck. If your new to my blog I suffer from insomnia. Majority of my nights are sleepless. If I do manage to get some sleep, if I am awakened then I can’t get back to sleep. This has been an ongoing issue and I want to say that it started after I had my second daughter. It has been going on for such a long time that it almost seems normal, but its not. I envy the people who have the ability to fall asleep and stay that way. You guys are truly lucky, that’s where I need to be.

Come in Solution

I know that this is not something that will just go away. I am normally not a person that takes medicine. I believe that for every medication the side effects are triple that and causes even further problems. That’s just me don’t send me any hate mail. I’m jisy joking, I’m a mom with a sense of humor of course, I’m only human. I have started taking melatonin because my body needs a good nights rest.

Well, spill the beans

Since I have been taking melatonin I worried about the side effects. Then I think that without it I may go back to constantly being awake. The good outweighed the bad in this situation. So fat nothing has happened, no I didn’t from a third arm. So I think its safe to say that I am going to make it.

It takes time

I have to say that when I take the melatonin it does not take effect immediately. Remember to give the vitamin 30 minutes. I hope that everyone has an awesome well deserved good nights rest. Stay safe ❤

Quarantine|with the Husband

I know a lot of woman will agree when I say that this quarantine has been hell. I knew that in the beginning it was going to be hard when my husband had to stay home. Hard in the terms of he has ADHD and so he has to stay active or he becomes a Nagitha Kristie. Just yap yap yap. We generally avoid this but being as though we literally have nothing to do. We are stuck and so we have been trying to cope with everything.

Then you throw kids in the mix its hell on wheels but at least they keep him occupied for the most part. You know how sometimes when people get stuck with each other for a long period of time. They start to get on each others nerves, now I know some people that would beg to differ. (appearances) I am going to be bluntly honest, my husband has been driving me up a wall. At first I couldn’t make sense of it because when he was always at work I missed him. Then I was kinda complaining because I did miss him. Now I have come to realization that we have just been stuck in the same place each other. There is absolutely the worst thing ever if I watch another Netflix stream I might just lose my eyes.

Now we have come up with different things to help keep us busy during quarantine. Its not as bad as before, I wanted to Bart Simpson strangle him. For him annoying me is all in good fun. Sometimes he complains that I need to smile more. Obviously my husband is the playful overboard. He always means well and always makes me smile so I’m good there.

I hope that after quarantine when things get moving again. We can get back to where we were. Until then I can make it, he’s not going to get my sanity lol. Once moms lost it dads not far behind. 😜

YogA Bound

Dear Yoga I’m A Fan,

For the longest time I have always wanted to do yoga. I suppose I was my own greatest enemy in this. Every time I would think about starting up again, I would tell myself little untruths. They would go a little something like the kids will never let you do it, when would you have the time, you should probably learn meditation first…..

So many times this has stopped me from doing what I want to do. I suffer from anxiety and so yoga is an outlet for me and another way for me to express myself through movement.

What Now?

Now I have given this much thought and the time is now. I mean what am I waiting for exactly? I’m just waisting time instead of bettering myself and my health.

Reality Check

As I am sitting here getting my thoughts together and anxiously waiting for the app to download. At this point I don’t know what to expect and so I just wait. By the way for those of you who are waiting for the app I am definately sharing. Yea it’s that good, it’s called Do You.

Inspire Yourself

I am super excited to start this. I know that it may be hard at first but I am my own worst enemy and best motivator. As long as I keep pushing forward and doing hat matters to me as well I can accomplish it all.

I put my plan into motions and I started reaching out to some of the moms. You can always find yoga moms on instagram. Inspiring other moms that you can be fit, calm, motivated, and mom. This one profile in particular that I follow is awesome and I love her good vibes. You can check her out @withlovemarisaa. I asked her abou it and she directed me to this app that she used when she started out. She was super nice and willing to help even though she didn’t know me from a can of peas.

This app even goes as far as letting you set up your own goals. As you can see I am simply just starting but I have chosen to do the beginners program. Follow the teachers as they provide you the guidance that you need. After completing this program I am going to venture onto another challenge.

Are you a Yoga Fan?

What is your favorite yoga pose?

Which pose would you recommend for a beginner?

Dear quarantine, I’ve Lost Count

Forever Cautious

I thought that just to be safe if we did go to a trail it would have to be a trail with not a lot of people. So i’m thinking well because all this caous is going on with covid the trails would be scarce. Obviously I was wrong, and o we ended up going to two trails. When we arrived at the first one I felt it was too crowded and I am all about protecting my little’s. I decided we can just go to another one no biggie. Luckily I remembered this little trail nestled within my neighborhood that is safe enough for kids. So that is where we went, and the kids loved it.

Let it Soar

As we explored the park I could see the excitement and curiousity all over there faces. Then you look at me and I have this like stuck confused plastered look on my face because I’m in mommy survival mode. I had to learn the hard way that everything doesn’t have to be so serious. I did encourage them to explore different things that I knew would not be harmful to them. We had a chance to learn about Rocks, Rivers, and Creeks.

Covid Nature says You Suck!

I mean this is really beginning to suck. Being cooped up in the house for fear of getting sick. This pandemic has really hit below the belt. Now as we sit around waiting for some good news we have to be proactive. For us who has children we have to be twice that. In the beginning I had huge ideas that we can do being as though I thought this would be over soon. I soon found that out the hard way as I’m sure many of us did. Being as though I am a nature mind and I love taking nature and wildlife photography I decided that we should incorporate trails in our day. We normally commit to doing these anyway because our kids love them and me too.

Safe Trails?

Are trails safe right now with covid going on? Yes, I mean it’s simply you being out in nature no playgrounds or anything. Not unless you are expecting to be sneezed on by a tree. I think your good to go.

Exercise and Education?

Triumphant

Being as though kids are no in school this is an awesome way to tie science and physical education together. I always up for a two for one deal.

There is nothing wrong with a little nature run. At the end of this road with be much more fun.

Trying Something New You Cantu

Okay you got me sometimes I do tend to have little surprises up my sleeve every now and again. All jokes aside I’m not much of a hair mom but I’ve been learning a great deal about hair since I have been quarantined. I always like to conversate with moms about different hair products and their experiences. I mean who doesn’t that’s how you learn neat new tricks and great products for natural hair. Not sharing should generally be against the law but who am I to say. Anyway that’s neither here nor there don’t you want to hear about this awesome new product that I have come across?

A journey to Moisture

I used to hear people talk all the time about deep conditioning your hair in which I shrugged off. I didn’t think anything of it because it’s not a common item I use. Then again i’m not one of those moms with beautician skills. I simply just don’t posses them what so ever. So it was something that just didn’t appeal to me. As of late I have grown curious as to how I can get my girls hair to grow. So I started try new things and a deep conditioner is one of them.

Apply Here

When it comes to actually going through with this it’s quite simple. I mean if you actually read the directions. Unfortunately I am normally one of those people who don’t read the directions. Don’t worry always on my head never my little’s. Applying this product is easy.

  • Part your hair into four parts. (I know it’s tedious bu worth it)
  • Apply product to the outskirts of your hair.
  • Continue to apply conditioner to parts within each section
  • Make sure conditioner is evenly distributed

I would not recommend(.)

I mean I am a firm believer that conditioner period is best placed on wet hair. The same applies for deep conditioner as well in order to obtain the best benefits. (Wet = Damp)

The Take Down

Now is the moment that we have been waiting for the take down. This means that you have almost reached the end. While you are taking down her hair you can just gently run your fingers through her hair and feel the smoothness of it. Now all products work differently for everyone. I just happen to like this specific deep conditioner at the moment. I loved the effect that it had on my daughters hair and the moisture is mind blowing. This process is just as simple as it sounds. At this point we are just taking out our protective style so that we can wash. There is no need to be rough depending on the protective style you did it should be easy. I decided to do the two strand twists because they are quick and easy.

Washing with my right

This is the best part I get to feel the outcome of using this product on her hair. I always tend to wash 2x. I guess you can call it an old wives tale. When you wash your hair the first time you are only lifting the dirt. The second time is to get rid of the dirt that was lifted 1st time around.

In the End

I am normally a stickler for sometimes trying new things. I am really glad I tried this product. It was actually something that I was looking for. I have always struggles with moisture when it comes to my daughters hair. Now with products like these it’s a lot more manageable and less time consuming. I let her hair air dry to see if the moisture was still there and it was. I’m definitely a fan this would be considered one I would come back to.

Blog Content

  • What is a deep conditioner?
  • How to deep condition your hair?
  • Wet or Dry?
  • Can I deep condition dirty hair?
  • Afterwards

What is a Deep Conditioner?

These products are more effective than the average conditioner. Most conditioners are the same as the shampoo not really thick but a more of a thin substance. Deep conditioners are known to be much thicker and they either come in liquid or a paste.

“I am so head over heels for this hair and scalp mask made by cantu.

Does clean hair matter much?

Well of course!

The surface has to be clean in order for the deep conditioner to do it’s job. Deep conditioners are used mainly on the outskirts of the hair. It’s main purpose is to soften hair while mending any flaws.

De-tangle Me Please

I know that this is the very last thing that you wish you were doing right now. On the other hand let’s face it, it’s a must especially if you have girls. I would suggest that before you start this process you grab yourself a big tooth comb (prevents hair breakage), less fuss. Anyways I saw it more beneficial for our sanity if I detangled her hair after I applied the deep conditioner. Starting from the ends comb each section out. You may see some hair entangled in the comb but that is normal obviously.

Infinity protection

Being as though your going to have to walk around with this in your hair, you might as well be comfortable. I mean who wants all that crap on their neck, really? So up we go into a protective style allowing the deep conditioner to really get into your hair. Brace yourselves because you going to be sporting this style for about 10 – 30 minutes.

Sticky Paper Favorites

What is your favorite deep Conditioner?

Productive Mornings

When you think of morning regime what comes to mind. You may be thinking you beauty regime right. A lot of people refer to morning regime mainly as beauty not accompanied by getting dressed of course. That portion had been completed the night before.

There are a variety of different regimes in which you can do. Mine consist of cleaning.

Why?

In the mornings I like to have time for myself. Being able to clean and make sure that my home is in order helps me and my family to relax better. It’s considered to be therapeutic.

Each morning it is always normally the same, believe it or not structure plays an important role even as your and adult. I have heard people say that they believe this not to be true but it is.

  • Wash Clothes
  • Wash Dishes
  • Clean Kitchen
  • Sweep

Wash Clothes

Yes I do wash clothes early in the a.m. My husband calls me “The Washing Zombie” because I am normally up around 4 a.m.

However washing a load in the morning can eliminate the time you lose with your family. Yes it is a tedious process so the sooner the better. Even with a family of 5 I am constantly washing this helps me get ahead.

Wash Dishes

I am one of those moms that sometimes get extremely tired. I have been struggling to gain sleep for quite some time.So when my kids drift off to sleep I sometimes follow.

I have tried to be consistent in washing my dishes at night but sometimes I result to mornings. I will rinse my dishes but still leave them till morning. I find that if I do wash them in the morning it is easier for me. I am able to move quickly and collect any dishes that may not have been placed in the sink.

“My husbands glass for example”

Every night he gets a cup almost like clock work. He will then use that cup for the remainder of the night, in the morning I get up grab it and wash everything at once. Sometimes doing the same thing can be tedious, my mornings allow me to switch things up based on my mood. Also just doing double the work is just to time consuming.

Being a parent you learn to manage you time to be more efficient. Using common sense and thinking smart.

Clean Kitchen

Oh yea I must have forgotten to mention that I have titles on my kitchen floor. The real big bully ones that are just simply out to ruin my life.

Yes those are the ones

Well they accumulate a lot of dirt from the heavy foot traffic around the house. I’m not quite sure how they get so dirty being as though we do not wear shoes in the home.

But that’s neither here nor there but simply for another post. I make sure that my kitchen is clean because for some odd reason that is always the first room to become dirty throughout the day. Which means constant cleaning for me. Or so I thought, when I started to get up and clean my kitchen it the morning it became easier for me to establish a pattern.

Getting up in the morning didnt seem so bad. Now I get up in the morning clean and then I clean again in the evening. This eliminates the amount of time I spend in the kitchen.

Cleaning the kitchen actually pertains to really cleaning the kitchen. Wiping down everything, making sure that everything is in the correct place.

No it does not have to be extremely neat,tidy, or perfect. It just has to manageable for you.

Sweep

I am normally a vaccum mom, but being as though I am an early riser I have to rely on a broom for most of my cleaning in the a.m. I normally sweep all the rooms in my home not just my kitchen. It makes no sense to sweep one room when the others need to be swept as well. That would be just making double work for yourself and we don’t want that.

This is where it becomes just self explanatory, but keep it clean.

Vaccum

I vaccum it make sure that I am absolutely sure I have not missed any thing. Whether it be in a crack or corner I know that I took all necessary actions to eliminate the dirt and dust.

Mop

Finally, when I get here I know that it’s almost me time. You know that little time that you do get to yourself. I make sure that I mop all of the floors to ensure that all the dirt has been lifted and that the floor is actually clean.

If you dont feel that the floor is clean you could in fact create new mop water and clean the surface again.

I believe this to be a great morning routine. It allows me to focus on some of the main things that are important. Think of it this way how would I accomplish mopping while my 1 year old is around. Not likely it would just become more harder for me, if you have to stress this than it’s to complicated. Complication needs no company.

Make life easier not harder.

What type of morning regimes do you have?

Growing Up 1

I cant even begin to tell you the week that I had, so recently zoii turned 1 and I feel like my world just flipped upside down. To me I kind of felt like where did time go, dammit she is getting older which means i’m getting older. Now that her birthday has come and gone i feel a little more relaxed about it. I always get really anxious around birthdays but that’s just me.

Now that she is 1 I am anxious all over again now not because she is one but because this is where its starts to get tricky. You can expect your baby to be in a whole mess of things, your home will never be the same. If you expected to keep a clean house with a baby I wouldn’t bank on it.

What should you do?

  • Baby Proof
  • Replace Everything
  • Glass Removal
  • Lock Up Cabinets

Baby Proof:

If you haven’t already I would baby proof everything if you like me then you are also covering the table corners as well. In reality you have to see it for what it is that nothing is safe at this point.

Replace Everything:

When I say replace everything I simply mean that if you may have items that are close to the floor I would advise you to move them higher. To babies anything and everything is something wonderful and colorful, but they do not know better and so you always have to be aware.

Glass Removal

I for one am not for glass I don’t like i nor do I keep it in my home for fear that my kids might knock it over and break it. I tend not to do things that I know will make me uneasy, buying glassware for me is not necessary. If you don’t want it broken then I suggest you put it out of your child’s reach. Sometimes putting it up higher is okay but I would not recommend it.

Lock Up

This is an absolute must and if your a mom when you get to lock you cabinets it’s a sign that you have reached another milestone. If your like me and keep your cleaning supplies under your sink than this is for you. I would strongly urge that when you baby proof your cabinet you make sure that they are really shut and locked.

Guilty Weekend Vacation

I know that as a mom I need time to myself but the question is, “Why is it so hard to enjoy it”. When I get time for me and put my mom status on vacation even if it’s for a brief moment it kills me.

Why you may ask because I am so used to hearing my kids run through the house and breathe life into it all around. When they are not around the house seems lonely and somewhat abandoned. My kids are a part of me and when they leave I do miss them a great deal.

Someone inve bashed me for allowing my children to go to their grandparents during the weekend. I thought to myself your a mom how can you judge me for doing what’s best for me. You simply cant all moms are different in more ways than one.

I soon realized that over a period of time that I had to come to realization that I matter to. Being able to focus on me helps me to be better, more patient, understanding, calm. Its everything that you need to feel in order for you to find peace.

So tonight is one if those nights at first there was 3 and now there is 2. I know you guys are saying that’s not a break. Oh but it is and when you have more then 1 you crave that me time.

So tonight is for me. It may sound cheesy but if I’m lucky I will get a weekend vacation this go round. My me time will be spent painting my home with my husband. Two birds one stone and I have just managed to spend quality time while having me time.

Who Knew.

Whatever Happened To Sleep

The time is approximately 4:52 and I must say that this is one of my good days where I should he sleeping. For some odd reason that is never the case when you have kids.

Not sure why but for some odd reason my kids are in my bed tapping me. Mommy wake up , no hun go back to sleep. When she says okay that is the time when I believe Ive reached an achievement. Of course not because that would be to easy.

And Then There Were 3

Mommy,I tried to sleep but now we are all up, I am at a loss for words but my reaction was kind of “hey I’m annoyed and exhausted” dont you guys know how to sleep. I myself dont believe that this is the right thing that should be happening, but how do I get all 3 back to sleep.

Back To Sleep Kiddos?

Here is the honest truth sometimes they will go back to sleep and sometimes they will not.Having a back up plan for this is a great way to ensure no mischief happens. Long story short my kids WILL NOT GO BACK TO SLEEP.

What to do?

The television is never my go to but when it is 5 minutes to 5 what other option is beneficial. I turn the television on so at least I know that they will lay down and eventually go back to sleep.

What About The Tv?

Now mama’s dont judge, the answer here is simple and I know that mama’s dont think it highly of it. Given this current time me and my television became great friends. Now do I turn on cartoons of course not. Everything is clearly educational. The options here are limited.

Does this work all the time no, mostly for my oldest. Zuri and Zanai. Zoii on the other hand that’s a totally different story. I had developed this method simply because it works for me. Also it keeps my kids sitting down and being quiet. One by one they slowly fall back to sleep.