Blogging With A Toddler

  • How can I be my best?
  • Scheduling

Have you ever tried blogging with a toddler?This is absolutely no fun for anyone let’s just be 100% on the same page. Then again this is what happens when you try to be productive without having all your ducks in a row. Have you ever heard the term don’t put all your eggs in one basket? Yeah sometimes when I have a lot of things to do I tend to mismanage my time. Take for instance me trying to blog while my toddler is up.

Being My Best

I know, I know what you are probably going to say nap time. See now we are on the same page. I am simply saying that nap time is both the worst and the best part of my day. I have what I would like to call a spontaneous crier she just randomly cries throughout nap times and the night. So I am constantly back and forth from babies room then back to my little blogging heaven. I don’t mind doing this but after a while it can become stressful. Sometimes if I get lucky as I have been for a little while (fingers crossed) then I can create fun and awesome blogs. Being my best means putting my best foot forward so here goes nothing.

Schedule’s Up

In order to avoid these types of barriers I simply have a structured schedule. On a normal day my daughter normally takes her name about 11 or 12, sometimes she fights her sleep. I am always willing to wait, because at the end of the day zoii needs a nap. If I stick to the schedule then I can excel. Having everything in order really helps me to stay on schedule and on top of things. I’m not sure where I would be, probably lost with my head in the clouds.

Anything is possible, when you believe

I know that in the beginning you may feel like you cannot accomplish this. Stop putting yourself down, you are your own worst enemy. Get excited, and motivated about what you are passionate about. Being a parent and working from home can be hard. We have to push ourselves to be better because when no one else is left in your corner all you have is you. So let’s get moving and figure out a way to be productive. Specially here and now with everything that is going on.

How do you work from home?

Photography| and the Birds

As of late I have been giving it great thought as to what I would like to bring out of this situation. Being quarantined and isolated from the outside world other than the internet gives you a great deal of time to think. I have quite a lot of activities that I do in order to survive my motherhood stress. We all have those, but self care goes a long way. So if you don’t have any it would be best that you find some if not one. Photography happens to be one of them, because I am able to share the beauty of the world through my eyes. (lens)

Picture This

When I first began my journey in photography I wasn’t sure of exactly what I wanted to do. I mean he type of photography, I wanted to do it all and more. You know the beginner photographer idea ambush. As time went on I began to incorporate different things into my photography such as trails. I am a very outdoorsy person and I have a passion for exploring and observing new things that other may ignore. Then it hit me, nature and wildlife. I had been doing this all along barely noticing. That’s my wake up call right there.

Fast Forward >>

Here and now a days I sill love doing nature and wildlife but it would seem hat I have found a love for birds. I find their beauty astonishing with the ability to glide through the air graciously. The only problem with than it I do not have the correct type of lens to take the images that I want. The Lens Required would be 200-500 mm f/5.6 E Vibration Reduction Lens.

Take a Beat

Before jumping into something I very insistent on doing my research because I want to make sure that I get what I need for a reasonable price. I know that sometimes we tend to get over excited and ahead of ourselves but just breath we got this.

The Brand Isn’t Everything…

Is more better?

Not necessarily because there are companies that sells you crap for a low price. You could be getting a array of items and they can be default. When buying bundles I would highly suggest doing research on the company. Pay close attention to customer reviews and what other say about the product as well. I will admit tha I have purchased vivitar products and they work with my nikon d3400 and works perfect.

Here and now

So at this point I am feeling overwhelmed with all of this but I know that it is something that has to be done. I am still researching as we speak but it is out of the three listed. When I come to a solid decision I will definately let you know. Arrival and unboxing will also be posted!

Quarantined Lazy Bones

But not for long

I don’t know what all this is about, but today I feel like just lounging around the house. It has literally been 2 days now and I feel like time has not moved at all. I think I am starting to be a quarantined zombie. I’ve been kept inside to long. I need an escape , an out of this whole motherhood shit storm. Being stuck in the house with a family of 5, and 3 girls as daughters i can sometimes get rough. I mean the pulling out your hair kind, what am I going to do type of situation.

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When in despair yell into the air

My kids have a tendency to become overly bored in an instant. If we do not keep them occupied in some way (I love educational tech) then our day is pretty much going to be rough. We all have our little tricks to get our kids to be quit, especially if your a SAHM and Work From Home. Keep in mind that everyone is different so no judgments here folks. If there is nothing to do they generally begin to play, rough house, argue, and then the inevitable fighting. So I try to be productive and prevent that. Yelling is not a preference of mine, I would rather not here it. Where as dad on the other hand has the ability to ignore it. I’m over her like how are you doing that teach me. I know terrible right.

Cozy Socks and Sweatpants Please

I have been seeing a lot of moms dress up while at home with nothing to do. I would prefer a pair of comfy socks over heels any day. To each it’s own, you guys are still beautiful. I have literally been in this phase where I don’t feel like getting dressed up, I would rather be dressed down and comfy. I get up everyday ready for battle (lol) I just know that today is the day I will get food thrown on me. I have to be ready for literally everything. I am comfortable and messy I can admit, but that the finer things about me I guess. I know most people would be like oh no you need to get up and get dolled up, but I’m rocking the #quarantinedmomlook.

Cook if you must, You Must

The only thing that has not been lazy is my love for cooking, this is done with love no matter if your happy or sad. I have been trying to introduce my kids to a sugar free diet. It has been going great and I have learned quiet a few new dishes, and researching new mexican dishes to introduce. This is also a way I can spend time with my girls, because sometimes they go off on their own and play. I know it’s crazy but when they play by themselves, moms tend to want to interject themselves. (very common).

Quarantined vs. Sanity

I know that through this time things have been hard, if you have kids then you get my drift. The only thing that has been hard for me would be adjusting. Blogging has been my comfort through all of this, starting up my podcast, and being triumphant.This is what is helping me to stay sane at home with my kids. Being able to share with different people about my take on motherhood and real life situations. If you have something that will help you stay focused on then by all means proceed with that. Now would be the perfect time to get a lot of things done.

I’m no Baby

Not That It Matters But Uh,

Call me weird but I have been pondering about something for quite some time. My daughter is 1 is she a toddler? I mean I am far from one of those moms that counts months. If you were to walk up to me and say my child is 46 I’m going to give you the blank stare. Yes I am one of them. Once zoii started walking I said that’s no baby and I started calling her a toddler.

The age of a toddler

Believe it or not this i a very common question in the motherhood community. Especially the first time moms so you and I, we are not alone. A toddler is a child from 12 to 36 months.

I prefer the easier way 1 to 3 years. So with that in mind my baby is in fact a toddler. It’s not a big deal or anything but this is a milestone for me. Becoming a mom of three I just knew I wouldn’t make it. I knew this wasn’t true but i was simply a thought. A common one I think that most moms deal with.

Expectations Tsk, Tsk

Now that we have established the toddler crisis, are you ready for what comes next? When your child turns one generally you will start to see them do a variety of things. If they are not doing them already.

Glitter, Sparkle 1

At this age you child should be able to

  • sit down without assistance
  • Crawl on both hands and knees (some may even be walking)
  • Pull themselves up utilizing furniture

Are you excited because I definatley am. Need I not say that maybe it’s best for you to baby proof your home. We do not want any sharp corners harming anyone.

Level Up

I don’t know about you but I feel like I just accomplished something great. Random thought it’s not like I haven’t been through this before. It’s just something about being able to relive it has me over the moon.

Trying Something New You Cantu

Okay you got me sometimes I do tend to have little surprises up my sleeve every now and again. All jokes aside I’m not much of a hair mom but I’ve been learning a great deal about hair since I have been quarantined. I always like to conversate with moms about different hair products and their experiences. I mean who doesn’t that’s how you learn neat new tricks and great products for natural hair. Not sharing should generally be against the law but who am I to say. Anyway that’s neither here nor there don’t you want to hear about this awesome new product that I have come across?

A journey to Moisture

I used to hear people talk all the time about deep conditioning your hair in which I shrugged off. I didn’t think anything of it because it’s not a common item I use. Then again i’m not one of those moms with beautician skills. I simply just don’t posses them what so ever. So it was something that just didn’t appeal to me. As of late I have grown curious as to how I can get my girls hair to grow. So I started try new things and a deep conditioner is one of them.

Apply Here

When it comes to actually going through with this it’s quite simple. I mean if you actually read the directions. Unfortunately I am normally one of those people who don’t read the directions. Don’t worry always on my head never my little’s. Applying this product is easy.

  • Part your hair into four parts. (I know it’s tedious bu worth it)
  • Apply product to the outskirts of your hair.
  • Continue to apply conditioner to parts within each section
  • Make sure conditioner is evenly distributed

I would not recommend(.)

I mean I am a firm believer that conditioner period is best placed on wet hair. The same applies for deep conditioner as well in order to obtain the best benefits. (Wet = Damp)

The Take Down

Now is the moment that we have been waiting for the take down. This means that you have almost reached the end. While you are taking down her hair you can just gently run your fingers through her hair and feel the smoothness of it. Now all products work differently for everyone. I just happen to like this specific deep conditioner at the moment. I loved the effect that it had on my daughters hair and the moisture is mind blowing. This process is just as simple as it sounds. At this point we are just taking out our protective style so that we can wash. There is no need to be rough depending on the protective style you did it should be easy. I decided to do the two strand twists because they are quick and easy.

Washing with my right

This is the best part I get to feel the outcome of using this product on her hair. I always tend to wash 2x. I guess you can call it an old wives tale. When you wash your hair the first time you are only lifting the dirt. The second time is to get rid of the dirt that was lifted 1st time around.

In the End

I am normally a stickler for sometimes trying new things. I am really glad I tried this product. It was actually something that I was looking for. I have always struggles with moisture when it comes to my daughters hair. Now with products like these it’s a lot more manageable and less time consuming. I let her hair air dry to see if the moisture was still there and it was. I’m definitely a fan this would be considered one I would come back to.

Blog Content

  • What is a deep conditioner?
  • How to deep condition your hair?
  • Wet or Dry?
  • Can I deep condition dirty hair?
  • Afterwards

What is a Deep Conditioner?

These products are more effective than the average conditioner. Most conditioners are the same as the shampoo not really thick but a more of a thin substance. Deep conditioners are known to be much thicker and they either come in liquid or a paste.

“I am so head over heels for this hair and scalp mask made by cantu.

Does clean hair matter much?

Well of course!

The surface has to be clean in order for the deep conditioner to do it’s job. Deep conditioners are used mainly on the outskirts of the hair. It’s main purpose is to soften hair while mending any flaws.

De-tangle Me Please

I know that this is the very last thing that you wish you were doing right now. On the other hand let’s face it, it’s a must especially if you have girls. I would suggest that before you start this process you grab yourself a big tooth comb (prevents hair breakage), less fuss. Anyways I saw it more beneficial for our sanity if I detangled her hair after I applied the deep conditioner. Starting from the ends comb each section out. You may see some hair entangled in the comb but that is normal obviously.

Infinity protection

Being as though your going to have to walk around with this in your hair, you might as well be comfortable. I mean who wants all that crap on their neck, really? So up we go into a protective style allowing the deep conditioner to really get into your hair. Brace yourselves because you going to be sporting this style for about 10 – 30 minutes.

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What is your favorite deep Conditioner?

Traits of A Partner


What’s Love Got To Do With It

-Tina Turner

Finding love can be somewhat of a hard task I mean you love who you love but in some cases maybe love is not enough. When looking for love you have to make sure that the person you may be seeking is compatible with you and have attributes that you my like, maybe even love them for. Most people look for partners with either one or the following.

  • Trustworthy
  • Loyalty
  • Stability
  • Compassion for others

Now this may be just me when it comes to compassion for others I am a real stickler for people who are rude and obnoxious to others it’s just not necessary. For us these components are of the upmost importance. It determines they relationship pretty much.

Trust Me

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Not everyone is trustworthy and only time will tell that if you pay attention to people rather than being in a state of lust things will become commonly clear. If you have found someone who is always been truthful this is a plus. Being with someone who is untruthful makes a person crazy because you never know when they are telling the truth even in urgent situations. When you are untruthful you have to constantly be that way because now you have to build on the lies that you have already secured for the foundation.

No One Wants A Person Who Constantly Lies

Loyal

It’s hard as is trying to find someone who will be loyal to you or do things that would otherwise compromise what you have. Disloyalty can cause a rift in a relationship but also goes hand in hand with trust. Once a person has been caught being disloyal there may not be a way for the other person to bounce back from the downfall. Something like this can have a huge impact on your relationship.

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Stability

When you think of stability what comes across your mind, if you are stable and seeking a partner he\she should be stable as well. You cannot build a house while carrying your partner not unless you are willing too. Stability ties into money as well if there is no steady income coming in this can cause rifts as well. Majority of relationship issues stem off of money.

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Compassion

This is always a plus for us we love to see how people interact with other people it says a lot about there character. Actions speak louder than words so if you feel like they are for you then go for it. If you see something that’s not settling in with you then say something. Normally we as humkans can see the early signs whether we want to or not.

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Finding the right person can be a hard task and sometimes they find you. I would advise that throughout your search you keep this in mind and if you see signs don’t ignore them. Remember that there is a someone for everyone.

Question of The Day

When looking for a partner or when you were looking for your spouse what were some of the things you looked for?

Self Care and it’s Wonders

Everyone always tells me about self care tips for to use on my own personal time but I must admit finding time for me when you a mom of three is pretty rare. Now this may not be the case for a lot of moms but it is a thing I assure you. I mean what’s a girl gotta do to stay sane with no free time? You figure out different tips ans things you can do when the kids are napping like blogging, that’s not where we are right now. We have to come up with ideas that best suits your life.

Self Care?

What exactly is self care because when you say self care I can thing of a ton of things that would fall into this particular category. So let define this term shall we maybe we can get to the bottom of all this caous.

Self Care Defined:

Any activity that we do or engage in order to take care of our Emotional, Physical and Mental health.

Helpful Tips

Practicing good self care is key to not only an improved mood but reduced anxiety as well. It is very important that parents pay attention to themselves as well as their children. You must have the ability to manage both. No this does not make you a bad parent it just makes you human and that’s all we can ask for. Focusing on self care for yourself makes it easier for you to be that calm, down to earth, fun mom that you really want to be. You cant do that without self care because you will go insane. The point is we all need a break and as a mom I am here to say it’s okay.

My Journey

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I used to be that mom overwhelmed, stressed, tired and all because I didn’t have enough time for me. No, this wasn’t the case for me I didn’t have enough time because I didn’t make time. You see self care all depends on you there is a choice as to whether or not you want to make yourself important in this equation.

I would always put off self care like getting my nails done, hair, make-up on occasions but I didn’t want to be that far from my kids. I was hooked there was no sane way for me to describe this. One day my husband put me out of the house and so something for you. That’s when I really experienced self care and me time. It took me soooo long, it felt like forever to be honest. That day I went out and I went shopping for myself and had a spa day it was awesome. When I came back home I was refreshed and focused. I noticed a difference immediatly I wasn’t grouchy nor overwhelmed. It was almost like I got to release all my stress and tension and only focus on me. No kids asking a million questions, singing loudly, kicking chairs, etc.

This is why I feel so strongly about this and I need for moms to know that no matter what you think people may think of you doesn’t matter but you well being does so let’s get some self care going.

Yay!

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Self Care Activites

What can I do to accomplish self care well while the idea may seem overwhelming it’s not you just overthinking this. Take a deep breath I’m going to help you get your brain moving to accomplish this goal.

Activities

  • Clean Eating
  • Physical Fitness (Pilates, Yoga)
  • Relieve Stress (Meditation)
  • Structure and Time Management
  • Relaxation (Take a load off!)

A Little Extra

50 Self Care Ideas for a bad day (free printable)! Take care of your mental health with these easy self-care activities and self-care tips to make you feel better. Helpful things to do for women to take care of their mind, body, and soul. #loveyourself #selfcare #selflove #personalgrowth #mentalhealth

Self Care Strategies

FOR Me and you

  • Exercise Regularly
  • Eat a clean, balanced diet
  • Ask for help when necessary
  • Think of yourself as you own motivation and bestie
  • Plan something that you can look forward too
  • Maintain your healthy friendships
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Asking for Help? Not Me.

I know we all hate asking for help me included so there is no longer an elephant in the room. It is okay to ask for help we are not perfect and things do happen when we least expect them to. So if you feel as though help is necessary then by all means ask. I always say only ask if you are in dire need of it not just to have because it’s not simply just to have. Everyone works hard to achieve what they have and to be honest no one has money to just up and give away.

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If you don’t believe me when I say life will be so much more peaceful when you yourself are able to have a piece of mind I mean it. There is so much more that you can do with a little time for yourself and make yourself much more happier for everyone’s sake. In a sense who wants to be a grouch ball for forever, you are preventing your own happiness. Life is what you make it so lets get the ball rolling for you.

Moms Matter Too

A Tiny Favor

I’m not saying this is mandatory but I do hope that this was helpful for you because all parents not just moms needs a break from time to time. Remember your worth and keep the mindset that I am entitled to me time. So hang up your cape of being a protector and go have a hour to yourself. Trust Me you will be so happy you did.

Survival is the Concept

There are an array of things that moms go through but none ideal as to what awaits them when the become stay at home moms. Not that this is a bad thing and majority of the time this is a choice in which a mom has chosen this route. She feels that their are more benefits vs. the way she has been currently living. When you become a stay at home mom just like any other job but without the SANITY in a sens.

Yes you gave up you 9 – 5 because:

  • You want to raise you children
  • Educate them in depth the way you want
  • Have more bonding time
  • Or you simply want to do you own thing and just be a mom

The reasons are infinite but with the pros you best bet is that the cons are not that far behind.

What does it mean to become a stay at home Mom?

We have already addressed some reasons as to why you may want or become a stay at home mom. On the other hand there is a bigger picture here.

  • Losing your identity. You were a bright and vibrant woman who always kept herself up now your wearing pj’s with banana nut squash on it.
  • Missing adult interaction: Not being able to hang put with your friends on you lunch break, Not really leaving the house unless you have to
  • Financial dependence on another: Having to depend on you spouse to obtain the finances that you may have
  • Answering unnecessary questions: What made you become a stay at home mom?, you don’t miss going to work everyday?

This is what you should consider when you become a stay at home mom, now if your like me you simply don’t care because this was a good decision based off of my family and income. No matter what your reasons are if you can get through this then you got it. Disregard the baby and yet keep moving, keep inspiring others when they ask “Do you like being a stay at home mom?”

I love it but that’s just me I have endured 2 if not all things listed above and I am steadfast about my decision, why because I am m e and what matters at the end of the day is my family.

How do you as a SAHM survive?

There are days when I just want throw the towel in and lock myself in my room but some of us don’t have that luxury and so we have to bite the bullet and deal. When I first started this journey I kept thinking to myself I cant do this. There would be times when I would call my husband overwhelmed and upset because everything was chaos. But once I got the hang of it I found that as long as I have a structured plan then my day would stop being so hectic. It’s really simple if I can do it then so can you.

Steps to How I Survive

  • Get you a game plan ready the night before….
  • Grab a little bit of fresh air take an outing…
  • Look for free things such as museums or the aquariam …
  • Exchange your number with other mom don’t be scared this can lead to play dates, social interaction for both you and your child|ren….
  • Exercise. …
  • Do something for yourself once per week (at least), engage in a want it’s okay you have earned it. …
  • Make the time you spend with your kids memorable

This also goes hand in hand with patience and I can honestly say that I lacked this very detail. I know that when I had my children I had to learn this concept really fast, kind of a sink or swim ordeal. I chose to swim because my kids and family mean the world to me.

Lacking Patience?

How can I be a patient mom is what I used to ask myself and each time I fell short even after I heard my first daughter it was smooth sailing. As she got older however I found that I was becoming extremely overwhelmed very fast. This is not a good trait to possess and so I decided that I was going to fix it because nothing god could come from that. It would just lead me down a road of self destruction. So lets figure out how we can be more productive in becoming patient.

  • Count to 10. (gives you a chance to step back from the situation)
  • Deep breaths
  • What would mom do? …
  • Weigh out you options…(How does this help?)
  • Take a break.
  • Laugh

Counting

Now when I say counting there is no right and wrong way to do this it’s as simply as it sounds but the overall outcome is that it works. It’s kind of like while you are counting you meditating, making sure that while you are counting you are also remaining calm.

Deep Breath…

Take a minute to step back from the situation and take deep deep breaths before just reacting this gives you time to analyze the situation, weighing the good and the bad outcomes.

What would Mom do?

Now be rational because you are a mom and your not just going to go off the rails and start throwing a tantrum. You have to be rational as if it was ever a choice. So ask yourself again “What Would Mom DO?

Find a Solution, Act on a Teachable Moment

Life’s lessons are what stay embedded in our children even after we are gone so embrace them with open arms knowing that instead of yelling you made the right decision as a MOM.

Weighing the good and the bad?

We all have choices but it’s the choices you make that will affect you forever. Make a mental list of the good and the bad and what would be your best possible outcome for the decision at hand.

Should I take a break?

Hmmm, should you take a break well geez let me think. A lot of people say that your a mom you don’t get or need breaks. A mom is sometimes discussed as an around the clock type job, you don’t have free time when you became a mom you gave that all up.

Well I beg to differ I am a mom of 3 and I take breaks if and when I need them. I’m not saying your having a bad day and the kids have drilled you down and you are on your last leg you just lock yourself in you bedroom. Simply ask your significant other if they can lend a helping hand. Or lay your children down for a map, I am a firm believer in naps. Why, you may ask because that’s my time to just be me not mom just for an hour out of they day. If you follow the tips i’m sharing then this may be rarely used.

Laugh out Loud…

We sometimes forget that we are all human and each of us has an imperfection somewhere but we are not as perfect as we may thing. We are in fact imperfect in a sense so In saying so things do happen, sometimes you just have to embrace it. Like your toddler sees his grandparents through a glass and runs into the glass. Although you may be scared that they are hurt you have to laugh because it doesn’t occur to you yet how the glass was not seen.

-Laughable Moment

What are your thoughts on this topic?