Embracing Separation Anxiety In Kids

I literally get this all the time why cant you go to work at a 9-5. Not that its anyone else’s concern. I will fill you in on a day and life of me, with 5 year old attached to me at the hip. It doesnt get any closer than this.

Believe you me I didn’t think that this was reall until it happened to me. Typical, right I know we all say that at least about one thing.

What is Seperation Anxiety

Normally referred to a condition in which a child  develops and sense of fear and nervousness when they are away from home.

Signs of Seperation

Some of the signs that we may see will appear to come off as crazy and absurd but to a child the reason in valid.

  • Clingyness
  • Extreme or Sever Crying
  • Refusing To Do Things As An Individual
  • Violent Temper Tantrums
  • Refusal To Go To School
  • Failure To Interact In A Healthy Manner With Other Kids

My Experience

My daughter tends to throw tantrums. Not just any tantrum but she really goes in for destruction and literally becomes sick from crying. Normal of course not, at first when the crying began I thought it was simply her not getting her way but we soon saw this to be untrue as well. She will never leave my side if I am around then you better bet she is not that far behind. She refuses to go to school. When she was attending school she would cry and scream for hour yes hours. I didnt know what to do so we seeked help. So now I am a stay at home mom that homeschools my 5 year old. I dont mind spending time with her but half way through your going to be a little overwhelmed. How do you prevent that from happening.

#momlife #hardworkingmom

Treatment

In most cases the over all method would be to utilize what is called therapy or the other term known as psychological counseling. This process allows for your child work with a therapist to reduce seperation anxiety.

Question

Does anyone else deal with seperation anxiety. How do you get through it.

Breaks Vs. Divorce

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Which is Best

Sometimes we get to that point where we may in fact need to make a concious decision as to whether or not we want to be together. Some people may think that relationship are fairy tales but that may only be because reality hasn’t hit yet. In other words every couple has there problems but it is the decisions that we make that will determine our fate. Being married makes it no longer about you kind of like when you become a mom it’s about your kids, same concept.

What it means to take a “break”

Normally in marriages the term is referred to as that you and your partner have not officially broken up, however you have decided to take some time away from everyone and your relationship.

How long should we take a break

No one ever knows how long the break will last for, it solely depends upon the partners. Based on what you may be going through you and your partner should sit down and discuss a time frame that you both can agree on. if this is not something that you can do at this time give it a week or so and then reach back out or discuss at a later date.

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Look At It From His Perspective

To woman breaks can mean a variety of things especially if you are in an unhealthy emotional state. Men however look at it as just some time to chill and relax to get their thoughts together. He needs time to sort things out on his own and it won’t happen while you are together. There is no time to think or deal with the problems while your ignoring them.

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Reunite or No

In some cases couples tend not to get back together if after a break they don’t see any possible way of this working. Just keep in mind that although you may claim to be changed or that things will be different doesn’t necessarily mean that you will get back together. Some things just were not meant to be and there is something better in store for you.

Do breaks help

Although this method is very healthy in a relationship, it does not really lead to break up. It actually has potential to strenghthen your relationship. The reason for taking a break are almost infinite sometimes it is the best choice.

What are your thoughts

I want to know what are your thoughts on breaks as it pertains to relationships and marriage?

Tired and frustrated - is it okay to take a break from marriage, my husband? What I learned

Healthy Eating Styles

Here You Will Find

  • What Are Some Different Types of Diets
  • What Are Good Eating Habits
  • What Are 5 Healthy Habits
  • The Disadvantages of Eating Styles
  • What is Folate

Have you ever thought that maybe you want to better yourself so that you can become a better you. Some people dwell on this but never really start, in order to be healthy it starts with taking care of yourself. Believe it or not it actually starts with what we consume and put into our bodies. There is a great deal of healthy eating styles around but picking one that is most beneficial to you can be tricky. Some of the eating styles may be but not limited to

  • Ketogenic (Keto)
  • Vegetarian diet
  • Vegan diet.

And Many More

Most Popular

Keto

This is a high fat, protien, low carb diet in which enforces you body to burn fats rather than carbs. Great for losing weight as long as you stick to the plan.

There are however downsides to this as well, keto is still a fairly new diet and is still being researched but as of right now The disadvantages are not well thought of.  

Downside

Although this choice may be perfect for you, you still have to consider the long term damge of subjecting your body to this. Keto can potentially cause kidney damage, nutritional deficiencies. The side effects consists of constipation, dehydration, fatigue and nausea.

Veggie Please

Simply a practice to stay away from meat and products that my be “Animal Slaughter”. Some people choose this journey because they do believe that animals have the right to live as well.

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Down Sided Lettuce

Lacking Sufficient Supply Of

  • Iron
  • Zinc
  • Protien
  • Iodine
  • Vitamin B12

All should be checked on a regular basis, this diet is also more costly depending on the varied type of diet you may have become accustom to. The hardest part of this equation is the meat as you are much more prone to have a harder time.

Vegan Love

A practice of not utilizing animal products within the diet and rejects the consumption of animals. This is more so if a plant based diet. I actually tried this particular eating style some things were not my cup of tea but then other were. It was a very enjoyable journey but it just wasn’t for me.

Low Balled Grass

This diet lacks in pertinent vital nutrients, being as though this diet excludes all meat and animal products it’s going to have a downfall at one point of another.

This Diet Lacks

  • Calcium
  • Omega 3
  • B-12
  • Folate

What is Folate

I know this may not be a very common term utilize in our society of well should I say our group of friends dont feel bad if you don’t know what it means. I am one of those people that had to do vast research to understand this so you are not alone.

It is determined to be a salt or ester of folic acid.

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Good Eating Habits

  • Stock up on more fruits, low fat dairy products (low fat everything), vegetables, and whole grain
  • Try to eat together like a family meal as much as possible (Share the recipes)
  • Buy a healthy recipe book or just search pinterest for clean eating recipes

The Selections Are Endless

Maintain Your Healthy Lifestyle

We all say hey we are going to become healthy and actually make a difference but somewhere along the line we lose sight of that. Lets maintain the initial goal and go for green, once you get into the groove of things everything else will fall into place.

5 Healthy Habits For A Better You

  • Smoking Is Bad For Your Health (Ditch Them)
  • Weight: You want to make sure that the weight you are losing will still bring you to a healthy weight. Being underweight is not healthy and should be avoided, remember we are reaching our goal weight because we want to be healthy for ourselves.
  • Exercise: This is a very important component being as though if you are trying to lose weight it makes up of 30% of your weight loss journey. So let’s get fit even if it for 30 minutes a day.
  • Eating a healthy diet: Choose the diet plan that’s most beneficial to you. (Individual Project)

How About You

I am eager to know the type of eating style habit you have chosen to do and why. Have you had any luck with this diet if so for how long have you been doing this. Share your story below in the comments.

The Inevitable Fight

The struggle with kids is that when they are smaller they are like best friends with no care in the world except having there sibling there to play with and spend as much time as possible. Sadly to say that as they get older I wouldn’t use the term “become distant” but there interests will change. Causing emotional up’s and downs from siblings feeling as though they are being mistreated due to the sibling wanting to do there own thing. This can be a huge problem if not addressed because in some cases it can lead to fighting , arguments, etc. We don’t want that, so lets figure out a way to fix it.

In This Blog Your Will Find

Ways To Prevent Your Kids From Fighting

How To Stop Before Starting

Preventing problems like these can be simple if you don’t make them bigger than what they are. Preventing altercations between your children and addressing the issue can provide a teaching moment.


We Can Learn From The Mistakes That We Make and Live To Fight Another Day For We Are Warriors.

-SG

The method here is simple check out these neat ways for prevention.

  • Don’t compare your children under and circumstances
  • Give Lots of Individual Time
  • Keep Your Kids Occupied
  • Allow Them Personal Space
  • A Non Hungry Child Is A Happy One
  • Don’t Give Your Oldest Authority Over The Younger Sibling
  • Lead By Example

Comparison

Believe it or not some parents sometimes compare there children, whether they unknowingly realize or flat out just don’t care. This is not a good idea to do because then you may make your children feel as though they have to be in competition with the other. Which down the line could result in an even bigger problem causing a rift between your children.

Individual Time

Despite what others may think there is a thing such as group time it’s just not an everyday event for your kids. Think about it this way everyday would you want to do things daily with your siblings or would you want one on one time with your parents? I would choose one on one time that’s the same feeling for a child. Children need that one on one time with their parents away from other siblings.

Occupied Much

Make sure that you keep your children busy specially if they are busy bodies who like to constantly move around. Having a task for them to do will allow them to focus on something that they may very well enjoy as a solo or partner activity.

Personal Space You Say

Everyone and I mean everyone needs personal space, I’ve often heard moms says you don’t have personal space. Well don’t you, that’s just simply not cool sometimes kids just want to be kids and do their own thing. I allow my girls to have there personal space (Although it’s normally spent doing workbooks, my daughter loves school).

Tummy Rumble

This is no game I know this can be a stressful situation for moms, dads, and siblings. When a child is hungry they are hungry it’s kind of like one of those ASAP moments and you go from being on your time to theirs in half a second. It’s nit rocket science we can avoid all of the mood swing action and tantrums by staying ahead of the game. Schedules are our friends and utilizing them is the best thing we can do as parents, yes lets get dad involved.

#Teamwork

Authority Not Your Mama

This is something worth paying attention to when we have older siblings depending on the age we put them in charge of their siblings. This is a no go because in a sense you are giving them power over the other. No child should have that type of power to tell another child what to do.


I Am My Own Person In Which I Should Be Treated Accordingly.

-SG

It Starts With You

I know you have all heard the term to lead by example this is a real thing people. I understand that we are all creatures of habit but when you have children you become the center of their focus. What you do they will too, so let’s keep in mind what we do and say.

ADHD and Me

Being a mom is hard but being a Mom with ADHD is even harder. I am a Mom with ADHD, Married to a man with ADHD, and have 2 princesses with ADHD. This is extremely hard and chaotic at times managing and keeping up. However it is possible to manage being a mom with ADHD .

ADHD

Also referred to as attention deficit disorder as it pertains to that of a chronic condition in which a person may have attention difficulty, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness.

A mom with ADHD can edure a variety of different things such as the inability to sit still , losing track of their things, and staying on top of things.

This is not something that we as moms should be ashamed of. Over a period of time we have learned to deal with these barricades, we develop methods as to hos to achieve goals despite theses shortcomings. We all need help from time to time and don’t worry I will help you.

Shortcomings

Moms with ADHD cannot accept boring like boring task on an everyday basis can become exhausting to us. When we have to do task such as these it becomes unbearable, the type of things moms like us would stay away from.

Systems Are Life

Developing systems can be really beneficial and can really help, when you develop a system that is beneficial and created by you it really becomes easy and enjoyable to do.

Say for instance I am not a stickler when it comes to laundry but very picky at times in the order in which I do them. I do what works for me, so laundry is done on fridays, I tend to wash the girls clothes first, then mine and my husbands.

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Beneficial Habits

Developing habits can be useful but hard so start with one at a time. Establish a habit and start small, for instance making your bed. This will help you and teach you children a good habit as well.

Strategies for You

I know this may be had being as though you little ones come first but you must find a way to help you focus in your day to day life. I utilize color coding to help me accomplish my goals and stay on track. When I write a list i use a variety of colors always consistent with my tasks on a daily basis.

You Matter Too

Sometimes strategies can be tedious and you need to throw something in the mix to give you that extra umph. Listening to music while you get tasks done can be a motivational inspiration to keep you going.

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The Natural Way

Most people would prefer not to be on medication and believe that they can manage their ADHD by themselves. This is very well possible when you do your research. I utilize melatonin to help me relax and wind down because sometimes it is hard for me to get to sleep. It comes in different textures and can be found mixed with epsom salt for baths.

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Food For Thought

Being a mom can be overwhelming especially when you have ADHD and so it is best to find somethings that will benefit you and help you be a calm mom. What are somethings that help you with you ADHD as a Mom?

Keeping Kids Busy

If your a stay at home mom then you may know the feeling f being unable to work and have your kids around. It simply just cannot be done, or can it. In most cases if we need something we will find a way to get it done in this case working from home can be frustrating to both you and your child not unless you gain a strategy as to how to keep them busy while you work.

Here we are going to come up with a couple of ways to help mom be more productive and get more done. Having something to distract your child is always the way to go plus it will allow you to focus with less anxiety.


Keeping Them Busy

  • Make Time for Play Time
  • Create a Space for them
  • Add Technology Into The Mix
  • Throw Backs
  • Always be Prepared

Play Time

I know that working to make an income, but spending time with your child is more important and it allows you to make a better bond. Obtain a schedule to map out play time and when it will be. Make time for what is important.

Creating Space

You will want a designated place for your child to play being as though you don;t want them to go from room to room wreaking havoc and making a mess. Let them know that this is their area, say for instance if you are working in the living room place your child somewhere within that room. This allows you to have space, and them allowing you to keep an eye on them as they play.

My daughter is 5 and she is very very busy so when I start to work I make sure that she is always in the same room with me and she has an activity to keep her occupied and focused.

The Wonders of Tech

I know we as moms don’t like the fact that this whole generation is being raised solely on technology now so when people suggest technology you like nope. I was kind of like that too until I started researching. If your a mom like me then you want you kid to be productive on technology so I strongly advise you to find learning sites.

ABC Mouse is Good (Only Go’s To Age 7) Teaches your children a great deal of thing including how to read this is something that parents should look into. I love you tube but not so much for my kids because not all content is for them.

ABCya! Is another good one but this site is mainly focused towards the older children K-5

Throw Backs

Remember when you were younger and your mom use to find ways to keep you occupied so she would get ideas maybe about crafts, workbooks, or coloring. These are what I like to call throwbacks, some of the things that you can share with your children.

Always Have a Back Up

When all else fails what can you rely on to keep your child focused and having fun so that you can continue to work. Always think of something else, something is better than nothing having a back up can make it easier for you and your child they will never get.

Nothing is ever as hard as it seems but if you take the time and gather different ideas so that you will be able to work then you will be A-Okay. You can find a wide variety of different activities in general and on pinterest.

4-5 years Never Better

So here’s the thing I became a mom of a 5 year old overnight.

Happy 5th Birthday Zanai
In This Blog You Will Find
  • What do you call a five year old?
  • Is a 5th birthday a milestone?
  • What can a child do around this particular age
  • What to teach them at 5

Panic Mode

Okay so I know that we as parents all have to go through the stages of our children growing up. No one is ever ready despite what they say. However truth be told I am never ready for my kids to grow, I am literally that mom in the background crying when my kids turns another year old. I know in some cases this may not be normal but I can’t see my life without my kids but now as I sit here and type what will I do when they become teens? Okay i’m over thinking this but I’know this is reality.

What do you call a five year old?

I never know what to call my kids as they get older there are so many names now. For instance

  • 3-5 years would be considered a preschooler or a young child
  • 5-12 years would be referred to as a school age child
  • 5-14 is a child
  • However 10-13 years would be called a preteen

The Milestone Reality

If your sitting there thinking to yourself okay there is no way that becoming 5 means that you are at a milestone of great importance.

Could it be?

Of Course!

This is just around the time that your child is getting into school and making new friends. Yes, friends the friendly faces that you can invite to their birthday and have mom time too with other moms. This is such a win, win if you ask me. All of this will cause a great deal of excitement in your child as well as their peers.

But wait there’s more!

What can my child do at 5

Well 5 is kind of the same as four but it just gets better from here they tend to become much more active, social, and responsible. So lets cove some of the things that you can look forward to with your 5 year old. These can be found in either Cognitive or Movement Milestones.

Cognitive

Focusing on a child’s development in terms of information processing, conceptual resources, perceptual skill, language learning, and other aspects of the developed adult brain and cognitive psychology.

Movement Milestones

These are often referred to as “motor development;”

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Don’t feel bad if you don’t know what these terms are fear not most people don’t and that’s okay. So now that we have a mutual understanding on what these terms mean we are now better able to understand in it’s entirety let’s get into it shall we.

Cognitive

  • Recognize majority of letters and possibly write their name
  • Have a better understanding of the concept of time and structure of daily activities, like breakfast in the morning, lunch in the afternoon, and dinner at night
  • Able to focus more
  • Follow two- to three-part commands.
  • Recognize familiar word signs, such as “Yes and No”
  • Know’s residency if taught

Movement Milestones

  • Stand on one foot for more than 5 seconds
  • Hop
  • Walk up and down stairs by themselves
  • Walk forward and backwards with ease
  • Peddle
  • Able to make and trace shapes
  • Stack 6 or more blocks
  • Use utensils

What do I teach them at 5?

Around this time with all the new things that is going on with your active 5 years old there is still more that can be crammed in there as well. For instance Values, these are very important it builds character.

Important Values

  • Honesty
  • Justice
  • Determination
  • Consideration
  • Love

Honesty

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Help them find a way to tell the truth.

Only with honesty can we Grow

In order for your child to be honest you have to be honest that’s the honest truth. Have you ever heard the term

“Teach what you Preach”

before? It may not mean anything but it simply mean that if I tell my child to tell the truth and I don’t how can I expect anything but what I am teaching them. There is not a kill switch here when you have kids you have to be on you P’s and Q’s because they pick up and imitate everything.

This is very important because if they are not honest now later on the issue could spiral out of control.

“Better to be safe than sorry”

Justice

Simply for children to make amends. If two children are having a disagreement things can be bad right then and there but later on down the line who wants all that built up tension? Children should not have to worry about fighting uneccessary battles at this age but rather to just be a kid.

Determination

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Encouraging them to take on a challenge can be somewhat of beneficial for them being as though they will want to press on. Determination in a nutshell is just doing what needs to be done whether you want to or not. Pushing through is the concept teaching them how to be fighter and to not just give up.

Consideration

(Thinks about others feelings before making irrational decisions. Sometimes kids say the awkwardest things but it’s our job as parents to help them stay on a healthy sociable path. Children do not neccessarily have a filter they simply say what comes to mind so why fault them. Instead of getting upset teach them to have consideration for other people.

For instance if two children Amy and Derek are having a dispute and Amy insults Derek. Although she may not know that this is hurtful and that it had an effect on her friend she unknowingly keeps going. Now how can we tell right off hand how a person feels we don’t but actions speak louder than words. Being considerate in this moment would be to apologize and next time be mindful of the words that you choose because they can become misconstrued.

Love

We all love our children of course but we need to take time to reciprocate back on the affections that they display towards us. When your child gives you a hug make sure that when you feel the urge to hug them you do so. It’s just simply letting you child know that you are here and you care a great deal.

I am aware that although you may feel s though you have the ability to get through this milestone or the the 5 year old blues and you very well can. We all can because we have so much help and a variety of resources to help us and our families. So in short do not ever think that you are alone.