I don’t know about you but I am simply just ecstatic. As you know I embarked on my loc journey about a month a go now. First, going into this again I knew that it would be a bit tough to get into the swing of things again. I had my doubts but my focus was to make it to a month. That was my short term goal that I started with, and yes I started small. I didn’t want to rush anything or discourage myself in anyway.
Throughout this experience within a month I have learned a great deal on what works for me.
I am particularly annoyed by the way my hair tends to look matted. So I have made it a point to retwist my hair every 3-4 weeks tops. This would allow for new growth to grow and be retwisted with my existing locs. It has proven useful for me so far.
Retwist 1 month
My occasional obssessive retwist
Some people say that it is bad to retwist you hair but so much when you are trying to loc your hair. Well everyone doesn’t always have the best of luck when it comes to locking. For instance before my hair started to even loc up it would occasionally untwist itself. This caused me great frustration but I pushed forward. Retwisting my hair more than most but wishing that my locs would stay and now they have.
Diy Hair Overnight Mist
African Pride Oil
Water (Avoid for 4C Hair)
I soon realized that this remedy would not be the same as before. When I first attempted this and I sprayed the mist in my hair they immediately began to unravel. Of course I mean today of all days but of course it was okay because I had already planned to retwist.
By eliminating the water I prevent further frizz up unless it’s new growth of course. I moisturize my hair with just a mixture of oil and witch hazel.
Loads of Fun
This journey so far has been amazing. I have met a great deal of new people within the loc community. If you are considering the locs then I would strongly encourage you too. Locs is the best decision I have ever made again that is . (lol) I literally get up in the morning and have to do niothing but my girls hair. This is a win win for me and the kids.
I know that this may not be your first choice, but when you have kids sometimes it’s good to just let loose. Nap times are perfect for whatever your into or just feeling that day. I am a huge fan of call of duty, it’s so much fun almost like getting out of the house talking to people from all over.
I’m not saying bail out
Now I know what you may be thinking this is just some sort of cop out to get out of sex. No and Yes, I know that we as woman are not always in the mood and rather than hurt you spouses feelings just redirecting is a better alternative. This quarantine can be about what you make it, me personally I am taking time to get to know my husband all over again. I want us to be able to connect on a different type of level, not that we already don’t but you get my drift.
I know that by now you are really going through it with your spouse. Not as an argumentative type og going through it but the more loving kind. Yes we are all adults the correct term for it is SEX. I’ve learned that being cooped up with my husband that’s all he thinks about. I’m okay with it but i’m not a bicycle ya know. SO I have come up with different things to do with your spouse other than sex.
Board Games( For the game Lovers)
Video Games (For my techy moms)
Netflix(Careful with the titles)
Trails (I’m a Nature Lover)
Tik Tok (Let’s have some fun)
Spa Night (We all need some TLC)
Let’s get personal
Me I would prefer to binge watch on Netflix it makes for a great conversational piece. Sitting her watching a movie with my husband just makes me a chatty kathy. There is so much that you are taking in. I just feel like share, share, share.
For the longest time I have always wanted to do yoga. I suppose I was my own greatest enemy in this. Every time I would think about starting up again, I would tell myself little untruths. They would go a little something like the kids will never let you do it, when would you have the time, you should probably learn meditation first…..
So many times this has stopped me from doing what I want to do. I suffer from anxiety and so yoga is an outlet for me and another way for me to express myself through movement.
Now I have given this much thought and the time is now. I mean what am I waiting for exactly? I’m just waisting time instead of bettering myself and my health.
As I am sitting here getting my thoughts together and anxiously waiting for the app to download. At this point I don’t know what to expect and so I just wait. By the way for those of you who are waiting for the app I am definately sharing. Yea it’s that good, it’s called Do You.
I am super excited to start this. I know that it may be hard at first but I am my own worst enemy and best motivator. As long as I keep pushing forward and doing hat matters to me as well I can accomplish it all.
I put my plan into motions and I started reaching out to some of the moms. You can always find yoga moms on instagram. Inspiring other moms that you can be fit, calm, motivated, and mom. This one profile in particular that I follow is awesome and I love her good vibes. You can check her out @withlovemarisaa. I asked her abou it and she directed me to this app that she used when she started out. She was super nice and willing to help even though she didn’t know me from a can of peas.
This app even goes as far as letting you set up your own goals. As you can see I am simply just starting but I have chosen to do the beginners program. Follow the teachers as they provide you the guidance that you need. After completing this program I am going to venture onto another challenge.
For as long as I can remember I have always had a love for hair. Well mine that is. I only had one rule, no one plays in my hair but me. This prevented the inevitable part and avoids confrontation. If anything was to ever happen it would be my fault, and mine alone.
Can you say that with time coming and going I grew out of this. I am beyond over this MyHair and Me feud.I have tried so many different things and now I simply want to be as comfortable as possible. Raising 3 girls can be more time consuming than most. When it came to morning routines, this became a problem. For me to get all my girls together, hair done would take more than an 2 hours. To me that’s just craziness but hey moms like me go through this A Lot.
So I started thinking what would be easy for me to maintain, manage, style, color, all the above. Locs of course now just wait I didn’t just come up with this. This took a great deal of time, and this is not my first rodeo with dreads might I add. About a year ago I started my locs only to combed them out. Don’t worry it was for good reason, my daughter was being bullied because of her afro. I combed my hair out too now we are twins my love.
No matter there Texture, Length, or Color of your hair, you are Beautiful Inside and Out
Regrets are not for me
If you asked me if I would do it again I would say yes each time, who cares how many times you have to start over. Now here I am again I have shaved all my hair off and grew it back to start my natural loc journey. So here goes nothing the only part that I am really going to hate would be the wiggly worms part, that’s until they grow that is. Going into this Yes I was really scared, because I was going to get them professionally done but then I thought why? I can save money do them myself and learn how to do starter loc’s myself. This doesn’t always pan out because styles like these are easier done on you than other people. Now that I have done them on myself I actually find it very easier and I will be able to keep retwisting my own hair.
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Here I am awake again and there’s nothing but dead silence with a distant hum of meditation music. Other than the good o’l husband snoring everything is peaceful.
These are the times in which we are meant to embrace the better part of ourselves. When you become a mom sometimes you lose that inner piece. Everything is in chaos, screaming children sometimes peace is not an option. Except for the occasional nap time gig.
Embracing What Is To Come
When you obtain the ability to find piece then things move alot more smoother. If you think you dont deserve this you wrong everyone deserves a chance to be happy.
I dont know why but at night time I seem to gain my peace because it is quiet. Dont get me wrong quite is good but silence is just plain boring.