I know that this may not be your first choice, but when you have kids sometimes it’s good to just let loose. Nap times are perfect for whatever your into or just feeling that day. I am a huge fan of call of duty, it’s so much fun almost like getting out of the house talking to people from all over.
I’m not saying bail out
Now I know what you may be thinking this is just some sort of cop out to get out of sex. No and Yes, I know that we as woman are not always in the mood and rather than hurt you spouses feelings just redirecting is a better alternative. This quarantine can be about what you make it, me personally I am taking time to get to know my husband all over again. I want us to be able to connect on a different type of level, not that we already don’t but you get my drift.
I know that by now you are really going through it with your spouse. Not as an argumentative type og going through it but the more loving kind. Yes we are all adults the correct term for it is SEX. I’ve learned that being cooped up with my husband that’s all he thinks about. I’m okay with it but i’m not a bicycle ya know. SO I have come up with different things to do with your spouse other than sex.
Board Games( For the game Lovers)
Video Games (For my techy moms)
Netflix(Careful with the titles)
Trails (I’m a Nature Lover)
Tik Tok (Let’s have some fun)
Spa Night (We all need some TLC)
Let’s get personal
Me I would prefer to binge watch on Netflix it makes for a great conversational piece. Sitting her watching a movie with my husband just makes me a chatty kathy. There is so much that you are taking in. I just feel like share, share, share.
Everyone always tells me about self care tips for to use on my own personal time but I must admit finding time for me when you a mom of three is pretty rare. Now this may not be the case for a lot of moms but it is a thing I assure you. I mean what’s a girl gotta do to stay sane with no free time? You figure out different tips ans things you can do when the kids are napping like blogging, that’s not where we are right now. We have to come up with ideas that best suits your life.
What exactly is self care because when you say self care I can thing of a ton of things that would fall into this particular category. So let define this term shall we maybe we can get to the bottom of all this caous.
Self Care Defined:
Any activity that we do or engage in order to take care of our Emotional, Physical and Mental health.
Practicing good self care is key to not only an improved mood but reduced anxiety as well. It is very important that parents pay attention to themselves as well as their children. You must have the ability to manage both. No this does not make you a bad parent it just makes you human and that’s all we can ask for. Focusing on self care for yourself makes it easier for you to be that calm, down to earth, fun mom that you really want to be. You cant do that without self care because you will go insane. The point is we all need a break and as a mom I am here to say it’s okay.
I used to be that mom overwhelmed, stressed, tired and all because I didn’t have enough time for me. No, this wasn’t the case for me I didn’t have enough time because I didn’t make time. You see self care all depends on you there is a choice as to whether or not you want to make yourself important in this equation.
I would always put off self care like getting my nails done, hair, make-up on occasions but I didn’t want to be that far from my kids. I was hooked there was no sane way for me to describe this. One day my husband put me out of the house and so something for you. That’s when I really experienced self care and me time. It took me soooo long, it felt like forever to be honest. That day I went out and I went shopping for myself and had a spa day it was awesome. When I came back home I was refreshed and focused. I noticed a difference immediatly I wasn’t grouchy nor overwhelmed. It was almost like I got to release all my stress and tension and only focus on me. No kids asking a million questions, singing loudly, kicking chairs, etc.
This is why I feel so strongly about this and I need for moms to know that no matter what you think people may think of you doesn’t matter but you well being does so let’s get some self care going.
Self Care Activites
What can I do to accomplish self care well while the idea may seem overwhelming it’s not you just overthinking this. Take a deep breath I’m going to help you get your brain moving to accomplish this goal.
Physical Fitness (Pilates, Yoga)
Relieve Stress (Meditation)
Structure and Time Management
Relaxation (Take a load off!)
A Little Extra
Self Care Strategies
FOR Me and you
Eat a clean, balanced diet
Ask for help when necessary
Think of yourself as you own motivation and bestie
Plan something that you can look forward too
Maintain your healthy friendships
Asking for Help? Not Me.
I know we all hate asking for help me included so there is no longer an elephant in the room. It is okay to ask for help we are not perfect and things do happen when we least expect them to. So if you feel as though help is necessary then by all means ask. I always say only ask if you are in dire need of it not just to have because it’s not simply just to have. Everyone works hard to achieve what they have and to be honest no one has money to just up and give away.
If you don’t believe me when I say life will be so much more peaceful when you yourself are able to have a piece of mind I mean it. There is so much more that you can do with a little time for yourself and make yourself much more happier for everyone’s sake. In a sense who wants to be a grouch ball for forever, you are preventing your own happiness. Life is what you make it so lets get the ball rolling for you.
Moms Matter Too
A Tiny Favor
I’m not saying this is mandatory but I do hope that this was helpful for you because all parents not just moms needs a break from time to time. Remember your worth and keep the mindset that I am entitled to me time. So hang up your cape of being a protector and go have a hour to yourself. Trust Me you will be so happy you did.